ilikeapplepie Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 She left, she knows I love her and she said she loves me, but if she did.. she would be here.. We wasn't really working out, things we're rough and we would always argue, we was together for 6 months and I didn't treasure what I had, we're only early 20's shes my first real love, she left because we wasn't making each other happy, and "it had to be done", "for the best" etc, I know everything I did wrong and I would give anything to go back and do it all different. I tried my hardest to talk her out of it, in the end I was sounding desperate to myself so I began no contact on a bad note... I said some hurtful things by text and thats the last we spoke... That was around 3/4 weeks ago... I feel like I have done so well not contacting her, but it's getting me nowhere.. sometimes I feel good, but I'm kidding myself, I'm lost, I'm in love with this girl, I fall to sleep thinking about her and wake thinking about her, I can't get her off my mind, no matter how hard I try, I am doing everything by the book and nothing helps, occupying myself, going out with friends, just trying to "move on with life", but it's not happening.. The thought of her being with somebody else is making me think crazy ****, I've got my phone in my hand.. but I know I shouldn't do it, this bitch has left me ****ing heartbroken I can physically feel it
broken77 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 At the very least, wait a few hours and don't text/call on impulse.. Think for awhile first so you type what you really want. Also, if she doesn't respond, will you be able to handle it?
Author ilikeapplepie Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 (edited) At the very least, wait a few hours and don't text/call on impulse.. Think for awhile first so you type what you really want. Also, if she doesn't respond, will you be able to handle it? She will respond, 98% sure. But I don't know what she's thinking, what she's up to, if she's seeing somebody, if she's moving on fine, if she's missing me... I have no to any of it. She's a nice person, wears her heart on her sleeve, not "stuck up" or stush 1 tiny bit, but once she's made her mind up something it's EXTREMELY hard to talk her out of it.. I know she will respond She didn't initiate no contact in a harsh way, I realised that I wasn't going to be able to talk her out of this and asked her, she said "no, it's final, if we are going to move on we need to stop talking for a while because it's hurting us both".. I text her 2 days later to tell her shes a heartless bitch etc etc, since then its been 3/4 weeks Edited July 10, 2012 by ilikeapplepie
paperboy48 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I would wait a good 24 hours before contacting her...I have wanted to contact my ex wife for the last 2 weeks to ask her of she is seeing someone. Ihave a pretty good assumption she is seeing someone. Each time I think about her with another guy now, I just say to myself she is a "selfish bitch" And, what is your reason for contact?
GeeziG Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Hang in there don't text her give it time I was feelings just like you a couple days ago and my ex of six months ended up texting me yesterday...although I didn't text back I know how it would make you feel better your the dumppee right? If so let her come to you
Philosoraptor Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 It will just bring you more pain and cause this process to start over. No one here can talk you out of anything though and if you're dead set on it you're going to do it. But if that were so you wouldn't have felt the need to post, you're scared to do contact and to not contact. I can tell you that not contacting will leave you at the point you're at right now... contacting will leave you at the point you were at the day things ended. Your call. 1
Author ilikeapplepie Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 this is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.. I need to know how she's feeling, or if she's seeing somebody, or if she's missing me Not knowing is whats torturing me..
Philosoraptor Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I promise you that knowing will do nothing but raise more questions and hurt much more. How she's feeling? If she's great it will hurt and make you wonder if you ever meant anything. If she's sad you'll wonder why and find false hope somewhere along the way. If she's seeing someone else? Yes will lead to all sorts of questions about him, crush your ego, and make you wonder what makes him so much better than you. If not you'll of course wonder if she's just sparing your feelings or lying to you. Maybe she's not dating at all and instead just banging everyone she meets? Missing you? "No" will crush you and of course make you wonder if you ever meant anything or if she ever cared. You'll analyze even deeper every part of the past. Yes will give you false hope and keep you holding on. You'd most likely get a "sometimes" like answer which will give you a bit of everything and screw you up totally. Look at the state you're in. You are going to hyperanalyze every single word she says and read deeply into every single tone she has. Want to torture yourself even more? Make that call and see how much worse it gets. 3
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