rubyrage986 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I am referring to relationships with significant others. My ex did 10 years for armed robbery and i stood by him for the last 2 years of his sentence. i knew of him when we were kids because we went to elementary school together but i didnt get to know him until i found out about him being locked up and i reached out to him because i felt bad for his situation and wanted to see if he was ok. At first it was completely platonic but he quickly pursued it into a relationship. When he got out this past february, things were only good for about a month. I say good because immediately noticed that he wasnt the same man i had been talking to and fell in love with for the past 2 years. NONE of his actions matched his words and it seemed as though once he got out, he forgot about me. He showed a love but after an argument, that love went right out the window. He started to become emotionally and verbally abusive, and any and everything came before me. I couldnt ask him questions without him getting angry, he started disrespecting me in public and private and he started excluding me from his life, less phone calls, etc. It didnt really bother him that we weren't around each other much. the more i tried to find understanding in the behavior, the worse he got towards me till he just broke up with me all together. After the break up and a few words exchanged from my mother and him, he cut me out of his life completely. It was like i never existed. When he broke up with me, he was so cold and cruel that it took me a couple of hours after the break up to process what had actually happened. I will never forget the amount of pain that i felt that day when he vindictively displayed hatred towards me. His family has cut me off an no longer talk to me. Everyone i spoke to said that he couldnt give a reason as to why he broke up with me but they said that he would spaz if anyone even mentioned my name telling them not to mention me in his presence. He even told another that he feels that he can do better than me. What i am getting at is if the long stint i prison (10 years) form the age of 16 caused this type of behavior? what would make a man turn on his woman who stood by him and put her life on hold for him in the cold and cruel way that he did. Yes people break up, but he didnt have to do it the way thathe did. He acas as though he hates me and has seemed to forget or not care about all i have done for him for the past 2 years. He doesnt owe me anything because i did it out of the kindness of my heart but i thought that he would at least have respect. It hurts to know that i cant talk to him even if i wanted to, that complete strangers, and the people who abandoned him for the past 10 years can talk and interact with him but i cant. It hurts like hell because he doesnt want anything to do with me and i dont even know why. He has severed ALL ties and doesnt seem to feel bad about it or miss me at all. Advice please. Can anyone shed some light on this because i dont understand. thanks in advance.
Philosoraptor Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 He used you to keep sane while locked away... it's sad but true. Now that he's a free man he's going to catch up on life and live the way he wants to, not the way he spoke to you about in order to keep you attached. 1
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