vogue Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 So my ex boyfriend and I had a really nasty break up several years ago. We dated for only a year and a half but we lived together for some time. We broke up during our only argument and I was heart broken. I figured at the time that we would get back together but we never did. However, we did have a few flings over the last few years, most recently about 2 1/2 years ago. We have had very limited contacted since then, mostly due to the new relationship I was in. In fact, the last time he contacted me prior to recently was a text that said, "I want to hold you in my arms again one day" and a missed call on my birthday. However, this is coming from a guy who told me he hated me and was horrible to me when I would see him after our initial break up. Single again, I ran into him in April and just smiled at him - I was to caught off guard to say hello. A day or two later he emails me through facebook, asking to hang out and saying it was strange to see me. Being hot and cold as I am, I told him he really hurt me and didn't think it would be a good idea to hang out. He completely ignored my email and just started to ask me how my day was, etc. We've been emailing casually every few days since, just about our day or silly videos. He told me about his dreams with me in them... I'm just really confused. What's the point of talking to your ex? Or is just really hard for me to handle that we are actually friends? Thing is though, I talk to and actually hang with my friends -- its strange to have a facebook buddy. I guess I don't understand his intentions and I am under the impression that he knows I do still have some feelings for him. Any insight or advice would be appreciated.
revenant Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 It depends what you want at this stage. If you want something serious and meaningful, he probably isn't for you. If you want to stick with friendship, his messages to you might be flattering but it's best to cut that off before he thinks you're really interested in getting back with him. Trying not to be too disparaging about the male gender as a whole, you can probably guess at what some of his intentions are right? Just don't let him use you or make you uncomfortable.
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