Should I stay or go?

[ac11442]

If I decide to walk away should I tell his wife who by the way is in complete denial because he has her convinced we ended it.Please don't be mean in you r responses, I never meant to fall in love with a MM.

 

No one ever means to fall for a MM, well, most of us don't.

 

I, personally, wouldn't tell her. Like others have said, she already knows. In the case of my xMM she found out about he and I five separate times over a 3 year period. Each time he begged for forgiveness,swore he and I would never speak again, went to counseling, blah blah blah, all the while still seeing me. He often said it would be easier if she just threw him out. I sometimes think he pushed the limits so he would get caught just so he wouldn't have to make the decision. When she caught on the fifth time she STILL didn't want a divorce. She wants to fix it. We are currently in NC. Again. But this time I'm not caving. Ain't gonna happen. Why? Partially because of what I've read here. It's definitely interesting, eye opening, informative, and a little embarrassing when you realize how unbelievably similar all the OW stories are and how absolutely ridiculous the OW in denial sound.

 

But think about it: If you tell her and she throws him out, even if he isn't so pissed at you for telling her, is that how you want him? By default? To be second choice? The backup plan? Plan 'B'?

[turnera]

With all the billions of people in the world to choose from, I can't understand why ANY woman would settle to be second in line to some man's wife.

[canuckprincess]

Thank you all, I will not be posting here anymore. Oh lord I guess I could just change my username instead.

 

 

Forever and a day!

Edited July 20, 2012 by canuckprincess

[nofool4u]

Oh lord I guess I could just change my username instead.

 

If you do, you might consider dropping the "princess" off of it. It isn't becoming.