Ladies don't forget your femininity

[pteromom]

Sweetness - EVERYONE should be sweet

 

softness - there's a place for softness, and a place for toughness, in both genders

 

kindness - EVERYONE should be kind

 

being nurturing - in order for a woman to be nurturing, she needs someone to nurture who is receptive of the nurturing. If a guy doesn't appreciate it, is rude or mean, or doesn't want it, it shuts off.

 

being ok with being a little more emotional than men - this is highly individual and doesn't rely on gender. Some men are more emotional and some women are more emotional. Just be who you are.

 

being ok with being vulnerable in the right situations - EVERYONE should be open

 

letting good men take the lead every once in a while - and vice versa, a man should let a good woman take the lead every once in a while

 

not wanting to dominate everyone and everything around you. - EVERYONE should not want to dominate everyone and everything around you.

[HelenDanger]

 

Look at that. It's already working:)

 

My wife says thanks

 

Whoops! Turns out I had my femininity on me all along.

 

That was my sugar free vanilla latte with heavy whipping cream I left at Starbucks. But I'm glad your wife liked it.

[Woggle]

Also isn't Samsung the one always saying men should pay and that they should live up to their role? How is this any different than that?

 

Also while education and a degree are great if a woman doesn't have a good personality and is unwilling to treat a man right none of that matters. If a woman lacks the basic fundamentals in what makes a good partner nothing will make up for that.

[HelenDanger]

If you want to go the extra mile to make a man feel great, just be extra appreciative of and encouraging to him. That makes him feel strong and approved of.

 

You don't have to do it. But it really does make him light up and want to be around you and do extra stuff for you. It's a choice.

 

And you don't have to do it for all men, just behave in a feminine way for the ones you want to make especially happy.

[samsungxoxo]

If those traits are so easy then why is it so damn hard to find that these days.

It's not. You just have to find that person... same as I'll have to find a man that doesn't want kids ever.

[samsungxoxo]

Also isn't Samsung the one always saying men should pay and that they should live up to their role? How is this any different than that?

I only said whoever asks out pays.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Shoot. I think I've forgotten how to spell femimimity.

[todreaminblue]

I've noticed more and more women nowadays are developing overly masculine personalities. This in turn can keep them single for much longer than they would like or even permanently. The sad thing is that they don't even know why this is happening.

 

Most women are attracted to masculinity in men. (true masculinity, not the fake chest puffing kind.)

 

Most women also find men that are overly feminine unattractive.

 

The opposite is true for men.

 

Most men are attracted to femininity in women.

 

Most men also find women that are overly masculine unattractive.

 

This is completely natural and makes men and women want to come together like hot wet magnets....but..the human race is currently in a very unnatural state and this is causing a lot of confusion between men and women.

 

I've become very aware over the years that many men and women do not understand these differences between them and believe that whatever they find attractive themselves should also be attractive to the opposite sex. It's just not true.

 

Ladies if you act as though you are over flowing with testosterone and are the alpha male gorilla of a group you are going to have a repulsive effect on most men. Even if you find that attractive in a man. Most men will not find that attractive in you.

 

It is good for women to be confident, assertive, fun and outgoing. These things do not take away from their attractiveness, as long as they don't forget their femininity.

 

When balanced correctly these things can make a woman super attractive and many women are able to do just that.

 

What desirable traits do you think femininity covers.....what is femininity to you, as a male, how would you describe femininity? Is it the outward appearance you are talking about ?

[WHOLESALEPACK]

I only said whoever asks out pays.

Right as if many women would actually be willing to do that themselves. You sure have an indirect way of fixing it by saying you're not like the others but you are. The only difference is you're stating it differently in order to not get flamed. I wonder what would you have posted if this were a women's only forum.

 

Aren't you hispanic by the way? By your posts you sure don't sound like it. If you put a tame puppy with street dogs guess what will happen? It will become just like them, thus changing into another street dog.

 

The reason I say this is because a couple of my friends traveled to South America and met the real Latina girls. They aren't that difficult, are nicer, don't mind doing traditional household chores and aren't obssessed into getting a degree.

[Quiet Storm]

If you want to go the extra mile to make a man feel great, just be extra appreciative of and encouraging to him. That makes him feel strong and approved of.

 

You don't have to do it. But it really does make him light up and want to be around you and do extra stuff for you. It's a choice.

 

I agree with this.

 

A man will thrive with positive feedback.

 

One thing that I see women do that make men seethe, is arguing or nitpicking them in public. Save it until you get home. I know one couple, she bickers at almost everything he says, and does it in a way where you can tell she thinks she's being cute. It's not.

 

I think a lot of women feel it's a competition with their men. They feel a need to prove they're smarter or more articulate and it comes off in a real showoffy kind of way.

 

I don't compete with my husband. I want us to complement each other, to be a team.

 

If we are around other people and he says something that I know he is wrong about, I keep my mouth shut. I'm on his side, even when he's wrong. I'd rather he know I have his back, then show everyone else I'm smarter. I'll prove him wrong later, in private .

 

I think most men don't want a woman that tries to upstage them. This doesn't mean that you have to act dumb and demure, but you should consider his feelings before you say or do something that undermines him.

 

I think handling it this way makes the guy more eager to please you. If you want a man that continues to treat you well and doesn't resent you, sometimes you have to lose a few battles to win the war.

[Woggle]

I agree with this.

 

A man will thrive with positive feedback.

 

One thing that I see women do that make men seethe, is arguing or nitpicking them in public. Save it until you get home. I know one couple, she bickers at almost everything he says, and does it in a way where you can tell she thinks she's being cute. It's not.

 

I think a lot of women feel it's a competition with their men. They feel a need to prove they're smarter or more articulate and it comes off in a real showoffy kind of way.

 

I don't compete with my husband. I want us to complement each other, to be a team.

 

If we are around other people and he says something that I know he is wrong about, I keep my mouth shut. I'm on his side, even when he's wrong. I'd rather he know I have his back, then show everyone else I'm smarter. I'll prove him wrong later, in private .

 

I think most men don't want a woman that tries to upstage them. This doesn't mean that you have to act dumb and demure, but you should consider his feelings before you say or do something that undermines him.

 

I think handling it this way makes the guy more eager to please you. If you want a man that continues to treat you well and doesn't resent you, sometimes you have to lose a few battles to win the war.

 

I agree and most women would not want a man to treat them like this so why would they treat him this way?

[HelenDanger]

Awesome! You're like a kindred spirit, Quiet Storm!

 

I agree. There is no point in competing in your relationship. That's for at work or playing tennis or for grabbing all the best stuff at a sample sale.

 

In a relationship, you're on a team. You don't compete against your own team members. So often, partners start out caring about each other's happiness, but gradually they stop caring and start trying to win against each other. At each other's expense. And they both lose.

 

I totally agree. You never put down your man in public, and rarely in private. It's not cute at all and it lowers his standing among the other men. If you lower a guy's standing often enough, he's going to feel disrespected and get unattracted real fast. It makes the other men feel sorry for him. Yuckko.

 

I think what you and I describe would totally qualify as femininity.

[samsungxoxo]

Aren't you hispanic by the way?

Yes, I am (born in Peru and been speaking English since age 5). What's your point?

By your posts you sure don't sound like it.

 

The reason I say this is because a couple of my friends traveled to South America and met the real Latina girls. They aren't that difficult, are nicer, don't mind doing traditional household chores and aren't obssessed into getting a degree.

So you really thought that just because I'm Hispanic I'll only focus on housekeeping? Wake up will you! It's not obssession but finding a better job position and succeeding in life. In addition, I like reading too (and studying is reading).