oogle000 Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 ok, my girl tells me she needs space and the usual and we end up breaking up. we get back on and off for a bit and then on for bout 3 months. she tells me she loves me and never wants to lose me again. then dumps me again. see she told me a little bit into our relationship that she is married to a refugee, her ex of 3 years because he was getting put out of the country and it was the only answer. apparently thats why she broke up with me because she was pretending to be still married to him so he could get his papers and the guards started gettin heavy so she had to be with him or she would get in trouble. i knew about all this yet i got back with her and now shes back with him again. its been 7 months now since we first broke up and i thought oi was ok but the last few days ive been back to square one again after seing her pull into his flat after a few weeks of us breaking up. i need advise and help, id love to just ring immigration and tell them about her but that wouldnt be me. im 22 and shes 21 and she was my first love and she told me she loved me more than anyone else but she just hurt me so much. this guy was horrible to her and hit her yet she prefers him to me............why!!!!!!
ntovrhm Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 No matter how much you care about her, you can't fix something that doesn't want to be fixed. Be there if she really needs you, but otherwise, let go.
clia Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 Seven months? What do you do in your free time? Do you have a life? How long did you date her? Move on...
oogle000 Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 we were together for a year and what we had while we had it was special. i know i should have moved on by now and for a long time i felt i had. ive been away on many weekends now with friends and i have a girl now who really wants to be with me but i just cant get my ex outta my head. this new girl just doesnt give me the same feelings and i think if i get with her that it would be only about sex. its messed up cos i dont want to feel anything for my ex, but i am still madly in love with her. i have gotten in great shape the last while and am more confident than ive ever been but i think working right beside this girl is a tumbling block for me. we dont even talk now and i cant bare seeing her and not be able to hold her. its pretty messed.
Love2BLoved Posted July 8, 2004 Posted July 8, 2004 Just move on!!! Obviously she's not taking the relationship that you have with her serious. Once you start that break up to make up routine it will NEVER end! If you don't want to keep feeling this way just move on.
oogle000 Posted July 8, 2004 Posted July 8, 2004 believe me i am trying, and i know now its over for good but its just too much pain ive had the last while. im trying my hardest its just we both live in a small town and work in the same place so i have to see her every day and with him too. its tearing me apart and getting out to do things at the weekends now is becoming less and less cos my friends are all in relationships. i just feel like everything in my life now is going downhill while hers is taking off! i know that might sound petty but im just in pieces all over again.....
mahjuejd Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 i feel for you friend, its a tough situation, you obviously still really love thuis girl and are wondering if she leaves you because of you or because of her situation. you sound really hurt and iots not gonna get better till you can get outta there. be strong,
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