Author ChynaDoll Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 (edited) You will never meet Mr. Right while you are wasting your time with Mr. Right now. You said you have agreed to not see other men while involved with MM, so how exactly will you find Mr. Right? You may have missed several opportunities with several Mr. Rights over your lifetime because you were too focused on good times with a Mr. Right now. Hi Alexandria, I agree but.... I think I have it all figured out (I know I dont but I have lots of excuses): If Mr. Right walks up to me right now, I would have to tell him I am not ready. Not because of the MM I am killing time with, because I have been in many bad relationships that I have allowed to wreck havoc on my life. I am still recovering from that financially and emotionally. I wasted most of my adult life in an extremely dysfunctional and borderline abusive marriage. After that I wasted 1.5 years of my life and almost lost my life to an abusive psychopath. I don't trust men. I'm not ready for Mr. Right. I don't know if there is even a Mr. Right. I want a Mr. Right, but I am not interested in taking another risk with a Mr. Psycho, Mr. Cheater, Mr. JellyBack, Mr. Possesive, Mr. Paranoid, Mr. Dumbass, Mr. Immature, Mr. Alcoholic/Drug Abuser, Mr. Violent or Mr. Controlling at this time. In that respect, this MM has zero risk, because he and I have no future together. He can wear those hats for his W. He can never turn into any of the Misters above with me because he cannot afford to risk the consequences. In that respect this R I am in is safe. I can walk away at any time because he wants to stay married, if he wants to give me any difficulty walking away or going NC I can pull the "leave me alone or i'll tell ur W everything card." If I ever meet a man I think has the potential to be Mr. Right, AND I thought I was ready, I would let him know I am seeing someone but it's not serious. I have no problem dumping this MM for someone that has more potential, just like he would have no problem dumping me to preserve his marriage. I understand it will take longer for me to heal and am doing more damage by loving this MM who CANNOT love me the way I deserve, so In that respect I may be missing the opportunity to prepare myself for Mr. Right. I guess I just dont have much faith right now. I'm tired of making sacrifices and not doing exactly what I feel like doing in order to be the woman someone else needs me to be, it doesnt pay. Edited July 12, 2012 by ChynaDoll
Mount Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 That is so right. As to my case, as much as I have emotional attachment to MM, but afterall I love myself as well, so have to hold back in order not to cause more damage to myelf. It's good to be selfish and treat yourself well, but an affair is not treating yourself well, nor are you protecting yourself.
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