Scotty Riggs Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I'm a late bloomer with dating. I only had one date in college and finally got heavily into it in my early/mid twenties with online dating. I've had new sexual/romantic experiences because of this and it's made me question who I am at this stage in life. People often consider me very mature in public or in general conversation. I'm well spoken, polite, and knowledgeable on lots of topics. But my inexperience with the emotional side of dating has resulted in questionable interactions. Nearly every girl I've dated has been a year or two older than me and even though I know age hasn't been the main conflict in most cases, I can't help but wonder if I should try and aim to date younger girls (19-23 instead of 25-28). It might be hard for you to judge because you haven't seen how all of my dating relationships played out, but generally speaking, do you think that someone in my shoes should aim at a younger age range? I've dated divorced women who've been in multiple long-term relationships lasting three or four years. Then again, I'm sure many girls five or six years younger than me that are still more romantically experienced than me. Yet there are also guys far older than me that are even less experienced and would be in even more of a predicament. Obviously I'm sophisticated, funny, and handsome enough to arouse interest in women slightly older than me and land more than a first date. It's when things become questionable, like if the girl starts acting in a way I find strange (I know without a doubt that I've had dates that were strange beyond my doing) or things seem fine and they suddenly start showing rejection in an unexpected way, that I might start showing desperation and confusion, sometimes even resentment. It's often tough knowing if I'm reacting the right way, who is in the wrong (if anyone), and whether I'm even capable of seriously dating a woman who's been in long term relationships before (every girl I've dated has had multiple LTRs, but I don't reveal much or any of my dating history to them). That remains to be seen because it's yet to happen. I want to date girls in their early to late 20s. Nineteen would be really pushing it and 18 would be too uncomfortable for me to consider. So the question is, based on my unique situation, I don't know if my approach to dating should be any different than any other guy my age looking for a serious relationship.
Algermas Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 You should be dating whoever you feel comfortable with and are most attracted to. I happen to prefer my girls young.
Balzac Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Young is fine but the add trials of education, immaturity and such are the trade offs.
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