GeeziG Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Some of you may already know my story, but i was in a LDR for six months where my ex broke it off two days before she actually moved to the same city as i currently live in reasons varied from me being insecure, her not being ready to be in a committed relationship..and she felt like she was losing herself etc... anyway to make a long story short it has been a week of no contact and bam!!! today i got a text from her it says..hey how are you...she goes on to say i have been debating on wether or not to text you for a couple of days now... i have not yet repsonded to this text don't know if i should my heart is tellin me one thing and my mind another...so what do you guys think? The first day she moved here i begged and pleaded for another chance and of course it didnt work i think that this girl and i have some potential and i dont wanna screw it up with one false mistake
Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 If she wants to try again she will send something more concrete. If not she will flip the guilt technique and say something like "guess you don't want to talk to me". If you respond you relieve her guilt and let her know all is good and she's not a bad guy. Right now you've got nothing but someone trying to relieve their guilt. 1
Chi townD Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Just remember the times when you were begging and pleading for her to come back and she totally blew you off. Now, she sends you a text asking how you are? Really?!?! Why? She didn't give a rat's ass before, now she wants to talk? Stay NC dude. 2
Author GeeziG Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 i agree.. i dont think i should text back, although i feel like if i dont she will let her pride get the best of her and just say **** it, but if she really cares she will try harder or come with something a little more direct
Girlboots Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 NC. If her pride gets in the way, she doesn't want you that badly. NC NC NC! I had something like that happen to me, I ignored him long enough..sent me "Today is so hot" text and I ignored it...saw me out with my best friend and he texted me "Aww, best friends" and I ignored it...finally he got the message, and he asked what I was doing. I finally responded and said "Painting my nails" and he's like "Oh, so you're home. I wanted to come by and talk?" and I said ok and he basically apologized and told me he would try harder to make us work. This was all during 2-3 weeks.It was difficult, but you find out what they really want if you stay NC. I'm sure its also driving her crazy, but don't budge until she stops playing little games. She needs to come to you direct, not little small talk messages 2
Chi townD Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I agree with girlboots. If she really wants you she will swallow her pride and make her intentions known.
Samilia Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I wouldn't answer. New town, she's bored. If you do crack under pressure (please don't), I would only say "??" lol not even bother typing a real "what do you want?".
Green21 Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Well NC it is You've made the right decision. Well done. It might be hard to ignore it, but taking the bait with expectation will only let you down very quickly. As you've acknowledged yourself, if she really does care she'll try harder than that. Any response from you is only to confirm to her that she still has your tab.
Author GeeziG Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Yea I dont think it matters anyway the day we ended it I remember her saying I'll text you but I know you Polly won't respond
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