El Brujo Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 My best (male) friend tried to convince me that what a man wears makes all the difference. He says that if I went everywhere in a pair of slacks and a cotton shirt, women would start hitting on me. I told him women don't hit on men no matter how well-dressed they are, because it's against the rules. He said that doesn't matter, women forget about the rules if a man is well-dressed. While I don't doubt that being all dolled up makes a man look more sophisticated, it's not practical for everything I do... and shirts and slacks are uncomfortable and expensive. Anyhow, I figure I'll give in to him... next time he invites me to some social or other, I'll try the shirt and slacks thing, if only to find out whether my buddy is full of BS.
Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I get hit on all the time and I just wear shorts and a t-shirt (oftentimes quite filthy after taking care of the house). I have one cashier at the grocery store who simply refers to me as "handsome". It's more the aura you give off than what you're wearing. Happiness is universally attractive. 3
carhill Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 OP, try something which is occasion-appropriate and yet reflects the style I've seen in your YouTube videos. As an example, I'm going to a wedding in about a month at the beach. It won't be actually on the beach but adjacent and I imagine a lot of men will be wearing suits and ties. Myself, I'll be in wool slacks, a silk shirt and with a beach-appropriate tie and jewelry. That's my style. IMO, when people are comfortable in their clothes, they come across as more natural. Still, it's healthy to respect a modicum of social convention. Lastly, focus more on being yourself and enjoying the social occasion as opposed to analyzing the experience as an experiment. What happens, happens. 1
FitChick Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Post a link to one of those youtube videos, please. By the way, a woman is "dolled up" and a man is "well groomed." A dolled up man would be a transvestite. 1
USMCHokie Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Just ask Barney Stinson. If you want to attract someone, you have to stand out from the masses, who generally dress like sh*t. Not saying you have to wear a tuxedo everywhere, but just having clean, well-fitting clothes in good repair is often more than enough. 2
EasyHeart Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 It's sad but true that clothes make the man. Dress sharp and you'll get LOTS more attention from women. It's not that they'll suddenly start hitting on you, but they will notice you more often and be more receptive to your advances. 1
ThaWholigan Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I dress comfortably dull most days, and often I don't get hit on. But when I dress relatively well, and have my haircut, girls ALWAYS notice. Grooming yourself well always makes you more attractive to women. Especially the details. 1
Art_Critic Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Why yes, dress does make the man. It doesn't have to be expensive clothes but rather it needs to be update and show some sense of style. I say that while I'm a jeans and polo guy.. but I haven't always been 1
MrCastle Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I think fit is more important than style. I'm a huge GQ/Esquire nerd, so I'm always looking at things to add to my personal style. But in doing so, I've realized the way things fit is more important. I mostly wear plain white or plain black tees, and a pair of jeans. Some people might wear the same thing and look sloopy. Maybe the shirt is too baggy, or the pants are baggy, etc. I wear nice fitting shirts that show off my v-shape, and my pants are not hipster tight or ghetto baggy, but just the right fit. It pays off. You want to wear clothes that compliment your body type. I get looks when in my t-shirt and jeans. I'm pretty sure the girls aren't saying "wow, what a stylish plain white t-shirt!". Also, dressing well/wearing clothes that fit you well just give a man confidence. I'm sure we all know that feeling when we find a suit that fits us perfectly. It gives your confidence a little bump, and women pick up on it. 2
SouthernDamsel Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I was reluctant to open this thread at first, thinking that it was going to be about a Real Doll. Such a relief to know that it is about clothes instead, whew!! I agree with the others. Dress in clothes that fit well and are appropriate for the occasion. I also like carhill's thought on his beach-themed tie. I always enjoy when a man wears a unique tie (as long as it is not vulgar). I will usually strike up a conversation about the tie, and there is typically an interesting story about it.
mortensorchid Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I don't think it has anything to do with how a man dresses. Unless you are in the habit of not bathing or not caring at all about your appearance, as long as someone is presentable it's ok.
Author El Brujo Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 Post a link to one of those youtube videos, please. By the way, a woman is "dolled up" and a man is "well groomed." A dolled up man would be a transvestite. Pretty much how I feel when I have to dress formal.
USMCHokie Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I don't think it has anything to do with how a man dresses. Unless you are in the habit of not bathing or not caring at all about your appearance, as long as someone is presentable it's ok. Each person will value certain attributes in their own way. More often than not, those who do not value how a man dresses don't place high priority on how they dress themselves. 1
Author El Brujo Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 Too bad I'm not some wealthy fashion designer. I'd make "slob chic" the next in thing.
carhill Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I always enjoy when a man wears a unique tie (as long as it is not vulgar). I will usually strike up a conversation about the tie, and there is typically an interesting story about it. Yeah, I was thinking about ice-breakers since I can't cut a rug on the dance floor and am going solo. Just ordered a couple of surf ties from a little shop I found near Pearl the last time I was on Oahu. I've got some great Hawaii stories to go with them from my trips there. OP you can do slob chic in your rat rod. Those are hot in LA. Have a tie or shirt custom made with your rod on it and the slogan 'Need Wood?'
Affliction Shirt Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Dude, just wear an affliction shirt. The more skulls, ink blots, and tribal symbols the better.
ascendotum Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 It was much easier in the grunge days. Un-ironed flannelette shirt or t-shirt, unwashed ripped jeans, old sneakers/boots and sunglasses and you were good to go...and stylish.
Author El Brujo Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 Sometimes I wish it were legal to walk around in public in my birthday suit. THAT would put an end to ALL the uncertainty. :lmao:
USMCHokie Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Sometimes I wish it were legal to walk around in public in my birthday suit. THAT would put an end to ALL the uncertainty. :lmao: Hey, if you've got it, then flaunt it.
Author El Brujo Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 Hey, if you've got it, then flaunt it. Like the Beatles said, I Am The Walrus... goo goo goo joob...
ascendotum Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Hey, if you've got it, then flaunt it. One of those barrels with braces might be a safer bet. EB, if ' pair of slacks and a cotton shirt' is a bit of an out of character look for you, what have you normally gone with for these singles events you have gone to in the past....jeans and pullover? Why don't you get the advice of a female friend/mate's wife, if you are dubious on your friend's advice?
USMCHokie Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 One of those barrels with braces might be a safer bet. EB, if ' pair of slacks and a cotton shirt' is a bit of an out of character look for you, what have you normally gone with for these singles events you have gone to in the past....jeans and pullover? Why don't you get the advice of a female friend/mate's wife, if you are dubious on your friend's advice? I'm sorry, but I vehemently believe that women are generally the worst source for advice on men's fashion...no offense, ladies...
ascendotum Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I'm sorry, but I vehemently believe that women are generally the worst source for advice on men's fashion...no offense, ladies... But they are your target market. Like when it comes to buying after shave who would you give the sniff test to, your mate standing next you or the pretty young (hopefully unbiased) sales assistant.
monkey00 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 If it's your style and you can rock it, then that's a good bet. Either way I find good fitted clothing to look better on a guy that something that's baggy or too tight. Fashionable clothing definitely can enhance your attractiveness, so it is not something that should be underestimated. I guess you never heard that a woman judges a guy from his shoes? They do and it's true.
USMCHokie Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 But they are your target market. Like when it comes to buying after shave who would you give the sniff test to, your mate standing next you or the pretty young (hopefully unbiased) sales assistant. Fragrances might be something I'd defer to a female opinion, but not for clothing. For the most part, they just don't have an intimate understanding of proper fit, detail, and just general style. In my limited experience, exposure, and conversation with others, I'd proffer that men's fashion can be slightly more complicated than women's fashion... And women tend to be motivated by the "styles" they see in their daily life...so if you want to be another cookie cutter Hollister archetype, then by all means, enjoy being lost in a sea of douche.
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