youdunsay Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Is it that you treat somebody well and somebody will treat you better? Is it really karma goes around comes around? I believe in Buddhism and I treat a guy really well. Why did he cheat on me for another girl?
denise_xo Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I'm sure the resident Buddhists will chime in with a more 'proper' understanding of karma, but the way I see it is that it doesn't work quite as literally as you suggest. I think you have to do 'good' things primarily for yourself and your own moral codes, and then whatever that might bring you in return is a bit out of our control, but if you treat people nicely, in the grand scheme of things that's likely to have at least some of the kindness returned to you. 1
Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Don't treat someone else well in expectation of a reward. Do so for your own happiness. But treating someone well will never make that person treat you well, but it will let you feel the best about yourself. Right action. Know that if you keep treating people well when you do find the right person you'll have someone who feels like they're the luckiest person in the world. 2
josie54 Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I believe in Buddhism and I treat a guy really well. Why did he cheat on me for another girl? Some Buddhists might argue that, in this instance, karma actually worked in your favor, even if you don't realize it at the moment. The fact that you treat someone well and THAT PERSON doesn't respond in kind doesn't mean that karma isn't working. Your guy may not have been good for you at all. His cheating on you (and therefore leaving you free to meet someone else much better for you) could be the best thing for you, karmically speaking. I believe karma involves you putting good out into the world, and good coming to you in whatever form is best. In this case, that good wasn't your cheating boyfriend.
TheFinalWord Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I'm sure the resident Buddhists will chime in with a more 'proper' understanding of karma, but the way I see it is that it doesn't work quite as literally as you suggest. I think you have to do 'good' things primarily for yourself and your own moral codes, and then whatever that might bring you in return is a bit out of our control, but if you treat people nicely, in the grand scheme of things that's likely to have at least some of the kindness returned to you. A couple months ago, I asked my mentor who is Hindu. He essentially stated the same thing except to add that karma has more to do with reincarnation. There are also different schools of thought. From what he stated he is of the Vedanta persuasion. They don't see karma as just cause and effect, but a supreme personal god intervenes.
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