nikki1077 Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now but we've only been on 3 dates because we are in a long distance relationship. We usually text each other every day so we do communicate a good bit. The last month he has been talking about eventually relocating here to be with me and a few days ago, he told me that he wants to be with me forever. I know that we haven't known each other long but when I met him, I just knew that he is the one. We have so much in common and he understands me like know one else has. We are a lot alike and I haven't found that with anyone else. I've been wanting to tell him that I love him but I know it's probably too soon so I keep biting my tongue. I'm also scared to say it because I don't know how he feels. Should I tell him or just wait?
Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 It depends on how you think it could alter the relationship and how good you are at keeping your mouth shut. If you feel that it would be a good thing you should go for it. If not, good luck zipping it. 1
Author nikki1077 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 I'm terrible at keeping my mouth shut and I don't know how I've made it this long without telling him. The truth is, I don't really know how he is going to take it. He did tell me that he wants me to be his forever but I don't know if that means he loves me. That's the way I interpret it but everyone is different I guess.
Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Well hi there, I'm you but with an extra appendage. I blurt out everything and seem to have no filter lately and I'm on the brink of letting those three words out. And like you, wondering what the response will be is the only thing holding me back. Do you got this type of thing going on too? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/328628-one-smitten-raptor-4.html#post4104613 1
Author nikki1077 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Yes, it looks like we are in the same boat. When I'm with him I'm thinking it in my head. I have a hard time keeping feelings in as well. How long have you been seeing your gf? I'm thinking about just telling him in the next few days. I just have to figure out how I am going to say it. I've never told a guy I love him first so I don't want to sound stupid.
Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Just trust your heart and you'll not sound stupid. Wait for one of those moments where everything just feels perfect. When you're in love they happen often enough that you won't have to wait too long. I've been seeing her for a month and a half. My heart was stolen the day we met and I've been crazy ever since. I would have swore I was too old for this type of thing but apparently not. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Well I understand how real these emotions can feel but you're living in a fantasy more than a reality...and this is coming from a romantic. However that doesn't mean I wear my heart on my sleeve and believe every thing at first sight is love. I would take more caution...I mean 3 dates? that's not a whole lot to base on whether you can be with someone forever or not and how much you love them or you'll truly be there. Let's say you actually do love him and he feels the same way, then what? what do you think that accomplishes? that still doesn't guarantee a relationship, it doesn't guarantee that you'll be together forever once you are with each other and actually realize behind the curtain and fantasy that you're still two people who have your own individual issues, quirks...does it tell you anything about the relationship or what it may be? nope, it tells you zero. I get you feel so much of a connection and that he's so understanding but at the same time what are you comparing to? and don't you think someone who is long-distance kind of is forced to get to know you and understand you when all you can do is communicate? don't you think it's a little easy to come in and out of the picture as you want it because you don't really make a big part of each others lives in person? These are questions for you to answer for yourself, but then again I think you're just riding the rainbow to cloud 9 and not really thinking about all these serious things, but from people who have been through love and relationships, they'll tell you to be wiser and not jump on the horse so quickly without knowing more about the person...love and emotions are all nice and well, but it doesn't a really deep knowledge and love from one another that you can only validate in person and through a relationship whether you really have what it takes, whether it really is some kind of unique true love or It's just something every other person on your block is going through that will only last X amount of time...last time I checked not too many people are having that successful of relationships but I can guarantee you a lot of them thought it was true love from the first 3 months. If you don't know how he feels then you're already not even in the place where you should say, you should be closer and on the same page with someone emotionally where a question like that would even be silly. I would refrain from diving into this too deeply, you seem young and naive which indicates you'll fall far too easily and fast without even seeing what this relationship really is...you need to communicate more with your partner about emotions, I don't know how two people can be supposedly dating and in a relationship and not know how one another feels for sure. Be cautious, keep your eyes open, don't make the mistake many women make and end up surprised when Romeo's words were just that. There is no rush in this matter.
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