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Hey.. Im new to this whole thing and I havent gotten a reply to my first post but I really need some advice... I was reading another post about a woman who was worried about her husband looking at porn when they get married. Well my concern is some what the same. I caught my fiance looking at porn and involved in internet chatting and he addmited to talking to different girls online about sex and viewing webcams and getting off. When I found out this it hurt me really bad. Him and I have been together for a year and a half but have been friends for about 5 1/2 years. I didnt understand that porn can be an addiction. Is it normal for a guy to do this kind of thing when he asks someone to marry them? I hate to think that when we are married he will be picturing other images in his head while we make love. Am I wrong to feel this way? Pete and I are in a long distance relationship on top of all of this and sometimes I think that is why he did this but still shouldnt a relationship be based on more than whether or not you can do intimate things with the person your with? Pete and I see eachother at least once every couple months. I guess I am also confused about purity and whether or not having sexual intimacy is what can distroy a relationship before marriage? Is it wrong to have desire and passion for someone before marriage? I am a christian and really only want to do whats right and whats best for Pete and I. Can someone please offer there adivice?Thanks so much.

Sincerely,

Vanessa

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there is nothing wrong with it... i wrote a post earlier today about this......ill have to see if i can find it hold on..

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I can't give much insight because my guy said he watched porn before he got with me because he was alone....and wanted to have sexual satisfaction but since we've gotten together he doesn't watch it anymore...he says that "since I have you to make love to why would I waste my time watching someone I can't touch and make love to" he claims he doesn't see the point in watching someone else do something that he can do himself and enjoy it more.

 

I myself am not into porn so I don't understand the addiction but I guess addictions come in all sorts!

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