whoknows11 Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Just want to hear peoples experiences. And i believe it could help people out by seeing things like it in case it happens to them. Eye opener as well. But whats the worst things an ex bf/gf have texted you/said to you/or done after the breakup, especially if they dumped you? Whether it was something to make you mad/jealous/upset/etc.
Sugarkane Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Well after I got dumped by the guy after my ex is a story. He dumped me as he said he wanted to be single. After a few months he begged me back etc. We planned to meet up (I had revenge in my mind. Was thinking of standing him up). He stood me up and then blamed the while breakup on me. Then he blew up my phone and verbally abused me by text. Too much of a coward to face me- they always are aren't they? Then I looked on his fb and he had a new gf the whole time. Some people on here seem to think exes always have good intentions. But they're completely wrong. I wish I had a way of Making his gf know he was texting me the whole time. I feel sorry for anyone involved with this Ahole. I never cheated or anything. It makes me angry that this Ahole is in a relationship. Yet I try abd do The right thing and yet I'm The one that's single. I'll never give this guy a recon know no matter what. They never seem to regret it anyway.
Author whoknows11 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Well after I got dumped by the guy after my ex is a story. He dumped me as he said he wanted to be single. After a few months he begged me back etc. We planned to meet up (I had revenge in my mind. Was thinking of standing him up). He stood me up and then blamed the while breakup on me. Then he blew up my phone and verbally abused me by text. Too much of a coward to face me- they always are aren't they? Then I looked on his fb and he had a new gf the whole time. Some people on here seem to think exes always have good intentions. But they're completely wrong. I wish I had a way of Making his gf know he was texting me the whole time. I feel sorry for anyone involved with this Ahole. I never cheated or anything. It makes me angry that this Ahole is in a relationship. Yet I try abd do The right thing and yet I'm The one that's single. I'll never give this guy a recon know no matter what. They never seem to regret it anyway. Yeah i agree, its really messed up for someone to be that way. My ex and i arent friends on fb so i cant see if shes talking to anyone or is in a relationship now. She said she hasnt done anything with a guy and wont. But i cant believe it. Even though she promised. But its messed up the games exes play. Especially if youre waiting around for them hoping to make things right.
KatZee Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 (edited) My ex also pulled the "I just need to be single/need to find myself/Love you so much that I need to let you go because I'm selfish" thing. As we were breaking up he was sobbing. Saying I was his best friend. He didn't want to lose what we had. That he's never been so close to someone and he could see us starting fresh after he "sorted himself out." Well 5 weeks went by and he never reached out once. Didn't attempt to be this "friend" he mentioned he wanted to be. We didn't end on a bad note. I never begged, pleaded, talked about him badly, I only respected him, cared for him, and loved him throughout our almost 3 years together. So I figured, "why not. let me reach out, see how he is." And so after 5 weeks I sent a friendly text, he called back sounded happy to hear from me. But yet again, he dropped off the earth for 2 weeks. After two weeks I found out he deleted my friends on his FB account. Not 30 seconds after that he sent me a text message telling me, "Hope all is well, just wanted to say you should go and sell the jewelry I got you. pay your rent. There is no 'us' I don't want you getting the wrong impression, that's my fault, I should have told you to sell the jewelry from the beginning." I was like... kidding me?! After almost 2 months not speaking except for a 10 minute phone call you send me this?! "There is no 'us'"???? We hadn't even talked in two months and he was acting like I was throwing myself at him and waiting around like a pathetic person! I reamed him out a bit after that and he said, "that's nice, good luck, this is my last text to you, have a nice life, lose my number." Keep in mind, NOTHING happened between the call and this text. Not to my knowledge anyway. So the only thing I can deduct is that our entire 3 years was a lie. Everything he said to me at the end of our relationship was a lie. He never wanted to be friends, never really gave a crap about me, and was just blowing hot air saying things he thought I'd want to hear. Oh, and he also cheated on me in the beginning of our relationship, he was selfish, self-centered, lacked consideration in many aspects of the relationship, would criticize me up and down, tell me how HE wasn't happy yet did NOTHING to contribute to the relationship. He just coasted along like nothing took work to maintain. He would take and take and take from me. Yeah, why I stayed, I have no idea. But I sacrificed, compromised, gave up SO much for this kid, and I guess love is blind. He's a real piece of work and had me so fooled. Edited July 9, 2012 by KatZee 1
CopingGal Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Just want to hear peoples experiences. And i believe it could help people out by seeing things like it in case it happens to them. Eye opener as well. But whats the worst things an ex bf/gf have texted you/said to you/or done after the breakup, especially if they dumped you? Whether it was something to make you mad/jealous/upset/etc. This is very brief because I've talked about this in length all over LS. The worse thing my ex said after I dumped him was "you were not alone in the relationship. You only interpreted that way." Then told me later on- in DETAIL how he cheated on me, how he played tricks on me behind my back when he was with me, how he lied to me, how he made excuses not to spend time with me, how he used his son in lies to cheat on me. Then sending a 15 paged letter to my home, most of which was about her. Then comparing me to her. The worse thing he did was try to turn me into a buddy in which he could talk about her to me in detail and tried to force me to communicate with him so that he could keep talking to me about her.
Sugarkane Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Yeah i agree, its really messed up for someone to be that way. My ex and i arent friends on fb so i cant see if shes talking to anyone or is in a relationship now. She said she hasnt done anything with a guy and wont. But i cant believe it. Even though she promised. But its messed up the games exes play. Especially if youre waiting around for them hoping to make things right. Don't bother waiting for them, usually they don't come back. But if they do then you can decide what to do. But most don't and most cheated on us. They usually don't deal with it alone. I really don't why it's ok to dump people like this. Yet I called crazy?
Thisisbs Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 "My feelings are gone whether you like it or not" I was knocking on her door.
Inky-Dinky Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 This is very brief because I've talked about this in length all over LS. The worse thing my ex said after I dumped him was "you were not alone in the relationship. You only interpreted that way." Then told me later on- in DETAIL how he cheated on me, how he played tricks on me behind my back when he was with me, how he lied to me, how he made excuses not to spend time with me, how he used his son in lies to cheat on me. Then sending a 15 paged letter to my home, most of which was about her. Then comparing me to her. The worse thing he did was try to turn me into a buddy in which he could talk about her to me in detail and tried to force me to communicate with him so that he could keep talking to me about her. Somewhere out there is a rubber room waiting for this moron. 1
Svet74 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Told me once.. we were broken up by the way already.. he left me he goes. you will never leave me because you love me. well guess what i left him anyhow. 1
Sugarkane Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 KatZee- If they were faking the whole time, than why did he bother staying so long? I can't stand it when they come out and say years were just a lie. I think they just do it to convince themselves a lot aswell. So not your fault at all. I'm sure no one held a gun to the exes head and was forcing him to stay. What a jerk.
jmjacobs31 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 my ex told me he despised me after I called him out on fooling around with someone else right after we split.
unforgiven13 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 My ex and I were trying to be "friends" Apparently to him this meant f*cking with my head daily, being nice one moment and flipping out on me the next. Worst thing that happened though was last week, I was at the beach with my friend trying to have a nice day. My ex was in Maine having a grand old time with his friends, it really hurt because we were supposed to go up together but at the last minute he said I shouldnt and flipped out on me. Anyway, I check my phone and have a bunch of txts from him flipping out on me. His friends showed him my fb status as if it was about him, it was just song lyrics, actually making fun of a song and had nothing to do with him. I don't even know why he or his friends would think that. Everyone else I told this story to thinks it's crazy. Well I tried telling him it was a song and not about him, but he said he didn't want to hear it. Called me every name in the book, wouldn't let me explain myself, told me to get out of his life, said he's over me, said I need to take a good look at my actions because if I don't I'm never going to get along with anyone and no one will ever love me. A lot of this was over the phone when I tried calling him to tell him he had the complete wrong idea. He was with his friends and being so mean. If I tried talking he would just yell over me and say he's not listening and doesn't care what I'm saying. The name calling and saying I'm a stupid f*king person and a bitch and a whore...it's just disgusting. I literally didn't even do anything. I had been waiting for him to get back from his vacation to tell him I don't think we should talk for a while because he has been really mean to me. I wanted to end things nicely because I care for him, but I guess he wanted to end things in the most immature, dramatic, abusive way possible. He deleted me from fb and told me to delete his friends. He won't speak to me and refuses to let me explain my side and get some closure.
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