KungFuJoe Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 There is a slight difference. Men care slightly more about bodies than women do, who care slightly more about face. But it's not this vast sea of a difference. But you'll see a hot woman go out with a good looking guy who might not be in the best shape more than you'll see some great looking guy (overall) with a real pretty, but overweight, woman.
jobaba Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 This is funny. I was thinking of something today that will end this thread. Ironic that this came up. Some years ago, I was working out a lot and posted a picture of my shirtless torso and asked some female posters what they thought. Was it LS? I can't remember... Anyway, almost all the female members said there's no way they could have an attraction to just a headless body. Today, while surfing for something totally unrelated to women or dating, I came across this link... How many guys would date her just based on that video right there... End of thread...
Chunky Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 As far as bodies go, I like heavy set women. I like a woman with some meat on her bones. When I hug her I want to hug more than a broom handle. I usually care for the woman first and the face and body later. The girl I'm with now is just my type. A beautiful face and a sexy full figure. Just a win win. Especially if the girl in question has a great personality!
Ruby Slippers Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Men care slightly more about bodies than women do, who care slightly more about face. But it's not this vast sea of a difference. I agree. I'm average to cute in the face, but my body is above average, and men freaking love it. I tend to have relationships with men who are very good-looking, and I sometimes wonder if I'm pretty enough for them. As soon as they get with me, they comment on how fit I am and want to start working out. And I'm just thinking, "Oh god, you're already hot enough. Is this really necessary?" lol
runner Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Would a man rather pick the: girl with hot body but ugly face or girl with beautiful face but ugly body? are these the only types of women in the world ? i typically go for pretty face and decent body, not in either extreme. moderation is key
USMCHokie Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 ...and [they] want to start working out. And I'm just thinking, "Oh god, you're already hot enough. Is this really necessary?" lol That's fantastic that you inspire and motivate others, especially significant others, to be in as good of shape as you. But is there a reason that you react this way? Or was it just a joke...? Kind of a serious question. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 That's fantastic that you inspire and motivate others, especially significant others, to be in as good of shape as you. But is there a reason that you react this way? Or was it just a joke...? Kind of a serious question. Well, I was halfway joking. Believe me, I LOVE IT when my man gets all ripped and strong. The halfway serious part of my joke is that I sometimes worry the guy is "prettier" than me, and if he gets his bod nice and toned like mine, I won't have a leg to stand on. But I would never actually discourage anyone from getting more physically fit! Quite the opposite. People often tell me I inspire them to get in better shape, and I think that's very cool. The guy I'm dating now said, "You're so fit. I'm not in great shape like you." Then he told me he was going to start doing pushups and running. The thought of him being even sexier is kind of daunting... but I'm up for the challenge of handling it 1
USMCHokie Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 The halfway serious part of my joke is that I sometimes worry the guy is "prettier" than me, and if he gets his bod nice and toned like mine, I won't have a leg to stand on. I was hoping you'd admit this so I wouldn't have to "call you out" on it. Do you think this is a reason why women might not care as much about a man's body? Might they feel a bit insecure about their own body if they're dating an Adonis? So they are indeed concerned with looks, but they'll emphasize value of man's face, since that won't cause the insecurities that a physique might...? This actually makes a ton of sense when I think about it...I think I might run with this theory...my new flavor of the week! External validation and confidence are out!
Ruby Slippers Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I can't really speak for other women being insecure about their bodies, because I've never been insecure about my body. I'm always in better shape that the guy at the beginning, and they usually step up their fitness, I guess so they'll feel we match. Though it's important to me that I stay in good shape because I just feel better when I do, I don't expect any particular level of fitness from guys I date, beyond what's needed to do at least semi-active things with me and have great sex. I don't even mind a little extra padding or a bit of a belly. As long as it doesn't stop him from doing what he needs to do, I don't care. But yes, of course I find it very hot when he's toned, agile, and strong. It's not required to turn me on, but it's some pretty nice icing on the cake.
USMCHokie Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I can't really speak for other women being insecure about their bodies, because I've never been insecure about my body. I'd actually be interested in hearing some other input on this, though I doubt I'll get any because no one will want to admit to having insecurities... ...I don't expect any particular level of fitness from guys I date... I feel the same way about women I date, and without fail, they always bring up this very issue. It usually takes some effort to convince them that I honestly don't care. But yes, of course I find it very hot when he's toned, agile, and strong. It's not required to turn me on, but it's some pretty nice icing on the cake. I've never dated a woman with a sh*t hot body...
Ruby Slippers Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I feel the same way about women I date, and without fail, they always bring up this very issue. It usually takes some effort to convince them that I honestly don't care. Same here, though I imagine you have to work harder at it. The first couple of times a guy made the "you're fit and I'm not" comments, I was like huh? I just wasn't even comparing us in that way. Now it's routine, and I just try to enjoy the comments in a positive way, and let him know that I think he's plenty sexy as is. But if he makes up his mind to start working out, I will definitely cheer him on and show my appreciation as he progresses!
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Yes, I feel like guys with hot bodies expect fitness models as girlfriends. Using OLD I'm more likely to respond to guys that list their body as average because they simply make me feel less insecure. Basically, I beleive that people find others attractive using their own attractivness as a baseline. Ripped body is an extension of that, those guys likely expect more in terms of their girlfriend's body.
USMCHokie Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Same here, though I imagine you have to work harder at it. Yep, it goes back to the idea of generalizations and stereotypes...some people have the preconceived idea that folks who are fit "look down" on those who aren't as fit as they are...sure, some do have that mentality...so the rest of us have to fight our way through that... But if he makes up his mind to start working out, I will definitely cheer him on and show my appreciation as he progresses! And that's the way it should be.
USMCHokie Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Yes, I feel like guys with hot bodies expect fitness models as girlfriends. Using OLD I'm more likely to respond to guys that list their body as average because they simply make me feel less insecure. Strangely enough, I have always listed my body type as average whenever I'd used OLD... Basically, I beleive that people find others attractive using their own attractivness as a baseline. Yea, the Science of Sex Appeal documentary I recently watched demonstrated this. Thanks for your reply.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 It does't mean that I am exactly going to say no to a guy with great abs, just that I may feel a bit insecure about it 2
iris219 Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Guys may prefer a good body, but I’ve found that what guys consider a “hot” body varies widely, whereas what's considered a cute face doesn't vary as much. I’m very fit, but I know that guys don’t require women’s bodies to look like mine. (This has always kind of annoyed me, actually. I work hard to have a fit body and I see flabby women with men all the time, while I can’t find one.) In fact, I might not be soft enough for some men. Some men like having an inch of love handles to grab. Men are very forgiving when it comes to women’s bodies. I may skip the gym today. I personally care more about a man’s body than his face. If he’s tall and fit, there’s a very high chance I’ll find him attractive, even if he has crooked teeth, no hair, and beady eyes. If he has an attractive face but doughy body, I probably won’t notice his face because I won’t even look up. I really don’t care if a guy’s face isn’t attractive at all, as long as it’s not hideous. An average body and average face is perfectly fine for most people. I prefer average. I would avoid dating men who are more attractive than myself—unless they don’t realize it!
ThaWholigan Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I like both in equal measure - of a broad variety.
snug.bunny Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I can't speak for the men (because I'm a female ) but out of the two, face was always the driving force for me. I've always (and continue) to be drawn to his eyes, facial expressions, nose, lips, eyebrows, etc. I hate to say that because what if one day, one of you becomes disfigured, will you still be attracted to him/her? My Aunt/Uncle married at a young age, but when he met her, she was gorgeous. She became facially disfigured several years after they were married, and he is still crazy about her 40 years later. I wonder if that had happened if they first met, would it have changed things.
carhill Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I found this picture to pretty much describe the dynamic I experienced in my M, as my exW and Valerie were/are dopplegangers, appearance-wise. When Val was heavy, as my exW was, she still had a cute and expressive face. After losing weight, even allowing for the digital alteration of the photographs, her body was certainly more attractive, but it's her face (and my exW's) which I would gaze upon the majority of the time. Hence, my preference, based on this anecdote and others over the decades, would run counter to the thread title. I found, even after things went bad in our M, and my exW was still heavy, and is to this day with her new BF, she still had and has a cute face. It is what it is.
snug.bunny Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I found this picture to pretty much describe the dynamic I experienced in my M, as my exW and Valerie were/are dopplegangers, appearance-wise. When Val was heavy, as my exW was, she still had a cute and expressive face. After losing weight, even allowing for the digital alteration of the photographs, her body was certainly more attractive, but it's her face (and my exW's) which I would gaze upon the majority of the time. Hence, my preference, based on this anecdote and others over the decades, would run counter to the thread title. I found, even after things went bad in our M, and my exW was still heavy, and is to this day with her new BF, she still had and has a cute face. It is what it is. Ah, good analysis. I see this: http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-3WYyGEpO9vs/T4DzvqFonwI/AAAAAAAAGfY/av_8GZVCoYY/s400/Ryan-+Reynolds-+Pictures+-2011-1.jpg And then this: http://www.mtv.com/movies/photos/j/just_friends_050929/01.jpg Aghhh it's so hard!!!
ScreamingTrees Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Wow.. Do people really go crazy over this Sean O'Pry guy? I can't say he'd be my idea of a woman's wet dream if I did have one.. Looks pedestrian to me. Maybe I'm crazy.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 It does't mean that I am exactly going to say no to a guy with great abs, just that I may feel a bit insecure about it Totally agree. And btw, I love your new avatar. Love your outfit and mischievous smile 2
ScreamingTrees Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Totally agree. And btw, I love your new avatar. Love your outfit and mischievous smile Is that really her? I was wondering.. What the hell is she doing on LS? lol
Emilia Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I'd actually be interested in hearing some other input on this, though I doubt I'll get any because no one will want to admit to having insecurities... I'm quite confident about my body now though used to be insecure. I know men have different preferences though so insecurity in a way is meaningless I feel the same way about women I date, and without fail, they always bring up this very issue. It usually takes some effort to convince them that I honestly don't care. [...] I've never dated a woman with a sh*t hot body... Nowdays I only date men with sh*thot bodies, the face doesn't matter to me to the same extent. It's more about lifestyle compatibility than anything else believe it or not. I don't mind lovehandles on a guy but they get funny about the fitness difference after a while as Ruby said. I'd rather choose someone who is fit to start with, that way we can both just do our thing without being competitive about it
FitChick Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Not from what I've seen. Muscular guys tend to have handsome faces, since the genes that contribute to handsomeness also contribute to muscle building ability. I can guarantee you're underestimating these guys' faces. Where I live, men with plain faces have toned bodies to make up for it. I personally care more about the body because it's a good indicator of overall health.
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