Enjaycee Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 It'll be a month tomorrow since we broke up. I sent her a facebook msg last night acknowledging where I think I went wrong in our relationship and that I'm going to work on myself. Before that I had NC going for a few weeks to heal. Today she sent me a text telling me about her day at the beach. I was nice and talked to her about it for a little bit before she left to take a nap. I had a convo with her later that went like this: Me: Still want space? (She asked for it and I was giving it to her) Her: Look we arent going to be bffs or anything Me: No, of course, I wasn't expecting that either. Her: Well idk what youre expecting out of this Me: Idk either honestly Her: Well I want us to be cordial Me: Ok well you said you wanted space and yet you contacted me today, and I'm kinda confused Her: I was being nice. Me: Well thanks I guess Me: So just to be sure, you don't ever see us together again? Me: Well? Her: No. Me: Ok then I don't want you contacting me unless you do. Her: Ok Me: And I don't want you sitting next to me at church either. -end of convo- Towards the end I was getting angry at her. I'm not sure why. I think I'm still trying to get over her, and even though she was being nice to text me, I told her to leave me alone. I feel like an ass... What could be a possible explanation for me getting angry at her? Help please?
Oncehadluv Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 you want her back but you messed up royally the minute you said " i think i know why our relationship ended" she has the upper hand and knows your putty in her hands you put the ball in your court with that one line buddy
AlexanderJames Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Hey mate I feel for ya having been in the exact same position once before. I too was in NC for a while with my ex before sending her a long winded explanation acknowledging everything I did wrong. (I did a lot of things wrong, nothing serious but they added up). She appreciated it. But it didnt get me far. It gave her the power like oncehadluv suggested. But realistically the power is useless if you detach yourself from the situation. People on here always say dont do this dont do that it gives her the power but really if you put your mind to it and play things safe by you you can do whatever you want and still have the power within yourself. Who cares how powerful she feels she is. It's useless if it holds no leverage over you. To be blunt from what I read up there ^ is that she's not being nice. She's rubbing in your face that she's going out and having fun without you. She says she doesnt see herself being with you indefinitely but we all know feelings can change. If given the time, she may well grow to miss you and grow to want you. As for you getting angry, Im not sure. Maybe your getting frustrated because you dont know what you want? It looks like you set your mind down the path to NC and recovery, but then her contactng you made you have second thoughts, AND THEN she turns around and shuts you down so bluntly. Making you make up your mind, change it, then change it again I'd be confused and frustrated too. Maybe even though you havent identified it yet, you're feeling used? Like here's you trying to do whats best for yourself and not talking to her and moving on without her, but here's her popping in when it suits her and disregarding your feelings and emotions just so she can let you know she's having fun without you and to hear you're not happy and still hurt over her? An ego boost. We wont know what she's feeling or her intentions until SHE makes them clear to you. Best thing to do is live for you. And do what is best for you. Let her do whatever the F*** she wants. Until she makes the effort to work things out with you she isn't a part of your life. And shouldnt be allowed to dictate your feelings for personal gain.
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