steelgator Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 every time i ask her to tell me if we ever have a chance to be together if i accept her offer as friends, she just says Please i want to be friends. This is after she said our relationship was unhealthy and usually normal people cut ties from unhealthy relationships and tell the jerk(me) to move the **** on. But I'm being dragged.
Author steelgator Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 yup, tomorrow is day 6 . She even told me we're better off with NC if i can't handle being her friend haha it's like she's mad that i won't be her friend. Well, i'm gonna be mad because she won't be my girlfriend...i don't need another damn friend i have plenty.
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I know what you're going through. I actually went through this for yrs. with my.com ex. She told me the same thing about things being unhealthy and wanted to continue a friendship. Truthfully, she was confused. She still had feelings for me, but was no longer sure about being my gf (because of all we had been through). I was like you...I wanted all or nothing. No mixed signals, ya know? What happened to make you two break up? Did you end it, or did she?
Author steelgator Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 she was confused and we were just taking a "break" going slow. one night when i was visiting(we're apart for college summer break). she said she already made plans with her girls. i got mad drunk and said nasty things. well she then said we're better off as friends won't say anymore than that, won't say why, when i ask to communicate about her feelings, she just want to not talk about it anymore and that its best if we go NC.
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 hmm...well since you two were already on a break when the offense occurred, sounds like she was on her way out of the relationship and used that night as the fuel she needed. And her saying you're better off as friends under those circumstances doesn't sound very sincere. I think you should just step away for awhile and if she cools off, she'll contact you.
Author steelgator Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 well i broke up with her then came back that's why we were on the break as she was still "hurt". She's still very angry with me and she's stubborn so it'll take her a long time to cool off.
The Tallest One Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I just went through fifteen months in a roller coaster relationship with a women who was "confused"! If you google about being in a relationship with someone who says they are confused, everything you find will say the same thing, move on! I know it's super hard and painful, but you deserve better! Don't waste any more of your time waiting and wondering, just think of yourself (because they are not thinking of what's best for you) and let them go. They are not worth it no matter how much you love them. Otherwise, prepare yourself for a long and painful ride!
magneet Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I just went through fifteen months in a roller coaster relationship with a women who was "confused"! If you google about being in a relationship with someone who says they are confused, everything you find will say the same thing, move on! I know it's super hard and painful, but you deserve better! Don't waste any more of your time waiting and wondering, just think of yourself (because they are not thinking of what's best for you) and let them go. They are not worth it no matter how much you love them. Otherwise, prepare yourself for a long and painful ride! same boat here - except its "only" been for 9 months.. Where I had hope several times. About 3 weeks ago, after we went for a 2 week euro-road trip we had the discussion again and thats when I finally realized its over. I need to move on. That is the end of the road. Only thing is - she still texts me once or twice a week, seeing if I am OK. Just saying hello - that is kinda confusing, but she still wants to be friendly. It does not really hurt me anymore (last night it didnt, last week however it was a bit worse when she was out partying and texted me...) Which I am - my mind is set - I know its over, I am moving on... We are still FB friends - but I dont go onto her Site whatsoever - I blocked her updates so I dont see anything of it.
Author steelgator Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 Funny thing though...i had a female best friend of over a year that i knew at one point liked me, her roommates would ask me about my feelings towards her. and i asked her and said she just wanted to be friends(she had been hurt in previous relationships)...never felt the same although im a great guy but we shouldnt talk anymore. a month and half later she starts showing up at places she knows ill be and then the moment i go fb official with the ex im dealing with now. BAM. she texts me out of nowhere saying. Now im dealing with the just friends thing now with this girl(she's hurt from me), so it gives me hope that she'll come around just like the other tried to.
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