Xyaero Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I've recently become involved with an extremely introverted guy. Being an extrovert myself (though I have become more and more introverted as of late thanks to his influence), I thought it would be interesting to compare the two between the sexes. The big thing I've been interested in has to do with the sexual drives of the two. I've read, and experienced from my partner, that introverts seem to have a lower sex drive. Whether or not this is consistently true, I'd like to get several opinions from introverted guys and gals, and those who have dated such. Even your own experiences with day-to-day tasks would be fascinating to read!
norajane Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I can't speak to sex drive, but there are some issues that you will need to look out for because they can break you up. The extrovert will want to go out a lot more than the introvert. That can lead to insecurity and jealousy on his part (who are you out with? are you meeting other guys? do you prefer to flirt with other guys than be with me? I was looking forward to a cuddly evening alone with you and you're out all the time). It can also lead to boredom on your part or feeling of suffocation or being controlled (you always want to stay home! stop trying to change me to be like you! we hardly ever go out together!). The introvert will be a lot more 'cerebral' generally, always in his head. You may believe he overthinks things a lot. He may believe you hardly ever give anything enough thought. At the same time, you can teach each other and bring out new and positive things in each other. He might learn that some of your friends and activities enrich his world; you might learn that his perspective on things is one you've never thought about but can appreciate. He might see how fun it is to go out and try something new he's never tried like, say a potluck dinner with group of neighbors. You might see how it's fun to cook a meal together during a cozy night at home. As with all things, communication and respect are most important. You have to respect each other's differences, and strive for understanding.
SpiralOut Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I don't find that introversion/extraversion has anything to do with sex drive. It's possible that an introvert may be less likely to want to get together as often since we need our space. So getting together less often would lead to less sex, I guess. But when you do get together, they could be horny and dirty like you wouldn't believe. I dated a guy like that once. My main problem in dating extraverts is that sometimes they don't understand me. Introversion is a widely misunderstood personality type. It's frustrating to date someone who gets annoyed with me for not wanting to go out more, or who thinks I am boring for it. Especially if that person has lots of events to go to, the kind where they are expected to bring their +1 and their +1 is me then that can be stressful to both people. If someone is extremely social and their partner hardly ever wants to go anywhere then that can be an incompatability. I guess it depends on how far on the scale both people fall. I've dated men who were outgoing, but not in an extreme party-hard type of way, so it worked out well.
MrCastle Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I'd consider myself an introvert and my sex drive is exceptionally high. Higher than any of my friends, and i'm a 24 year old single man. If you can believe it, it's higher than what should be expected. I don't think it has anything to do with being introverted although why go out to a party when you can stay inside and have sex? My thing is, I'm not big on partying. I don't mind going out and meeting new people, but the bar/club scene is not me. I also have a close knit group of friends and don't see any reason to have acquaintences. I'd much rather go on a one on one date with a lady then go out drinking with her friends or mine. Has nothing to do with social phobia or anything like that, I'm just a very passionate, intimate person. It's a lot easier to seduce a woman when it's just you and her alone, and not cockblocking friends, competitive males, or any other element that gets in the way.
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