itslonleyatthetop Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I have been dating this man for months now. He seemed to be the perfect mate. He cooks, cleans, tells me and shows me that he loves me. Plays in a band, as I do. He has many groupies, but that doesn't even bother me any. I'll just say we have a lot in common. The one thing that throws everything away is that he smokes what I will call "the stuff". I can not stand it. Sometimes it puts my nerves on end. I think I should just let him go, but it is hard to when he does everything else right. Could someone please give me some advice or thoughts on this one.
Tree_Salmon Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 you cant change the man. take him as he is or leave. save yourself the heartache later.
ilikeapplepie Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I have been dating this man for months now. He seemed to be the perfect mate. He cooks, cleans, tells me and shows me that he loves me. Plays in a band, as I do. He has many groupies, but that doesn't even bother me any. I'll just say we have a lot in common. The one thing that throws everything away is that he smokes what I will call "the stuff". I can not stand it. Sometimes it puts my nerves on end. I think I should just let him go, but it is hard to when he does everything else right. Could someone please give me some advice or thoughts on this one. So you share a good relationship, a good friendship, he loves you, he is kind, have lots in common etc etc, but you are going to leave him because he smokes weed?
Decapod33 Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I have been dating this man for months now. He seemed to be the perfect mate. He cooks, cleans, tells me and shows me that he loves me. Plays in a band, as I do. He has many groupies, but that doesn't even bother me any. I'll just say we have a lot in common. The one thing that throws everything away is that he smokes what I will call "the stuff". I can not stand it. Sometimes it puts my nerves on end. I think I should just let him go, but it is hard to when he does everything else right. Could someone please give me some advice or thoughts on this one. If you love him, fight for him! Also, I play guitar in a band called VESSL. Check our debut album out here: VESSL | Free Music, Tour Dates, Photos, Videos if u like deftones, tool, ISIS etc You'll dig us.
Oncehadluv Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 well with no offense it seems like your narcasistic, he seems like a cool dude and imo would be better off with somone more laid back and non judgemental since your standards are so high why not date accountants or buisnessmen?
CarrieT Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 So you share a good relationship, a good friendship, he loves you, he is kind, have lots in common etc etc, but you are going to leave him because he smokes weed? A lot of us have intolerance towards drugs on any level. Personally, the smell of weed makes me extremely nauseous and I am very sensitive to its lingering smell. I can't stand the way many people act on weed and, yes, I have ended relationships with guys who smoked it every day. Giant red flag to me that they had no control and were substance abusers.
ScienceGal Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I won't date someone that smokes anything. Both of my parents were life long smokers, and though they're both still alive, they're in terrible health. Breaks my heart. Knowing your boundaries doesn't make you a narcissist. 1
Tree_Salmon Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 well with no offense it seems like your narcasistic, he seems like a cool dude and imo would be better off with somone more laid back and non judgemental since your standards are so high why not date accountants or buisnessmen? Cool dude or not this will not change. So if she can handle the smoking then cool. If she cant then this cool dude is gonna have one naggy woman on his hands. let's put a stop to nagginess right now in 2012
Moonless sky Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I agree with ScienceGal's post. I also have experience with this, met a pretty great guy but his smoking habits bothered me. I had to let him go, sure sometimes I would miss him but I don't think it was healthy that I couldn't accept who he is.
Oncehadluv Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 hes in a band, stuff like that comes with the territory, you think you can tame him like gene simmons wife did to him? besides him having a fun filled life with or without you ( guaranteed he will without you) what do you have to offer or comprimise if he stops smoking grass?
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