msjamie85 Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I got married at the ripe old age of 22 to a man I had only known and dated for two months. I was young and the whole idea of love at first sight seemed very romantic to me. About two years into our marriage, I got misdiagnosed with uterine cancer. It was two months later that I discovered it was a misdiagnosis. Those two months were awful. I laid on the couch convinced I was dying and had never really gotten to live. Obviously when we discovered I was actually cancer free, we were both joyous. But those months of hell, had planted a seed of doubt in my mind. Communication broke down, he started working a lot more. I was lonely and felt unappreciated. Finally after a year of our relationship crumbling, I left. We have been separated for almost two years. With very minimal contact for the first year. The past year though, we've had dinner on an almost weekly basis. We've had a lot of heart to heart talks about what went wrong. Both of us have admitted to our faults and owned up to our actions that have led to the separation. I know for a fact that I have changed tremendously over the past two years without him. I can see a real change in him too. My fear is that if we try to reconcile, we will slide back into our old habits and routines which obviously didn't work out the first time. Any advice? Anyone else out there reconciled after a long separation?
Philosoraptor Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Just do what you feel will bring you the best chance at long term happiness. If you try it again just be constant and clear with communication to avoid any chance of slipping back. 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Jamie, I think that you have reported SUCH a unique story that it might make sense to give it another chance. Your having been misled by your doctors seems so central to the part of your story you wrote here, and for that reason it seems sensible to replay that part of your relationship/life without knowing the effects of strongly believing you're going to die soon. Maybe there is a lot more that is significant to the story, and maybe that misdiagosis isn't as significant as you suggest, but based on what you've actually shared here, it is probably worth another try.
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