uzi Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 i really like this girl at work we talk for hours when were at work she does flirt with me by starring at me across the store or when were talking she looks deep into my eyes. last week she looked at my watch and she really liked it and was like when are u buying me a watch so i went and got her the watch and put it in her locker without her knowing it was a surprise. next day she said she couldnt accept it because it was way to expensive and it became awkward. but she got over it and ignored the whole thing ever happened. then yesterday we were working the same shift and i decided to ignore her i only said hi and bye to her so then she goes to my friend at work saying that she didnt like the fact i was ignoring her and said that i was a really nice guy and wants to be friends like we were before the watch incident. then i told my friend to tell her that it was going to be hard for me but ill try and she said i better try or she wont ever speak to me again. ---now for the twist--- she has a boyfriend and they've been together for 2months now. her bf is moving to a different country. shes only 19 and im 24 and shes like shes gonna be very sad when her bf leaves and she said she wants to move with him to a different country. SO WHAT SHOULD I DO! i was thinking when i talk to her at work only keep it work related and with my the co-workers joke around and talk with them
norajane Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 Dude, she has a bf. Whatever the situation, she. has. a. boyfriend. That means, hands off. Because trying to get involved with someone who's head is otherwise occupied is only going to mean trouble for you. Maybe if he does move, and she doesn't, maybe then her head will be more clear and she'll be open to considering her next bf. Don't do anything. Just be friendly and don't act all weird around her suddenly. Maintain some dignity.
Author uzi Posted July 8, 2012 Author Posted July 8, 2012 ***the bf already moved away to another country
norajane Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 ***the bf already moved away to another country That's not what you said: her bf is moving to a different country. Anyway, it doesn't matter. She's not done with him in her head or heart.
Author uzi Posted July 8, 2012 Author Posted July 8, 2012 I meant to to write he left already...he left last week
spinnyspeaker Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 (edited) Same response: No matter where her boyfriend is, he is still her boyfriend. I heard a good line today: No one asks for advice, they ask for corroboration. You keep asking about (I assume) the same person and the same situation, and the responses are pretty much always the same... Not trying to dog on ya, but comon. Edited July 11, 2012 by spinnyspeaker
WordvAction Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 You're not getting mixed signals, and from the sounds of it she's completely into her boyfriend. Move on
orcunderabridge Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 (edited) Buying her the watch is you investing way too much when she has invested so little. It shows neediness, a trait which girls find repulsive. Be that as it may, you possibly were friendzoned way before this incident occurred. If you went back to being cool with her and at the same time met and dated other girls there is a chance that her attitude towards you will change.... but do not count on it One more thing: Don't every talk to her about her "boyfriend" , that's a sure fire way to make her feel guilty around you if she does find you attractive Edited July 18, 2012 by orcunderabridge One more thing:
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