broke up twice and thinking of getting back

[eltsac]

Hi all,

 

Short summary - my ex and I (who had a 6 year relationship in total) broke up 2 years ago, stayed together for 18 months, then broke up again 5/6 months ago. She dumped me, the reasons being the same as the first time, she is lost, doesn't know herself and feels she just uses me as security and strength. Plus this time she felt we weren't as compatible anymore and that we were drifting, which I agreed to. Also she kissed a guy from the first time we split and this was always in the background.

 

So we split, I cut off all ties, did my own thing although always had her in my mind. We had some of eachothers stuff, so about a month or so ago she got in touch and tried to arrange a time to meet to collect etc. I put it off for a while, not wanting to see her, until just last week we did meet.

 

We met, we talked about some things, and she started crying saying she missed me and my place and 'us'. I told her to compose herself whilst I made her some tea. We chatted some more, then I helped her with her stuff to the car. She kissed me when we said goodbye, I kissed her back, but said we shouldn't do this. She agreed, but said she made a mistake in the breakup and missed me and loved me etc. I told her we both needed time...and we went our separate ways. Then I learned that evening after she left that she met my best friend for lunch and told him the same thing, but she didn't want to make things difficult for me.

 

This all sounds promising, but the annoying thing is shes back in my head again, and I now find it hard to stop thinking about her - touche to her. Also we are texting, but she seems to be aloof - perhaps playing it cool? We said how we should arrange a time to sit and talk about things, but obviously I'm nervous and hesitant about it because I'm unsure - she stung me bad, twice. Would it really work again after two breakups? Or should I just move on? I'm unsure whether or not shes just lonely or depressed and hence wants me back, she has a lot of other stuff going on in her life that are making it hard and maybe I'm just a crutch?

 

Any advice or opinions are appreciated guys!

 

Thanks

[Philosoraptor]

Have you seen something that shows you that things would be different this time around? Sounds like she needs a little security and strength right now...