CopingGal Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 During one of my break ups with this humanoid, I didn't care about NC enough. I didn't know what it was and when I found out, I didn't like it. Tried to do it though, but broke it every month or less. NC...blah, blah, blah, whatever. During this final break up with the humanoid, NC helped me tremendously. I started to really take NC seriously, even though I broke it a few times...but only few. I should have started it after I left him, but I did not. I only started after I found out about the terrible things he did to me behind by back and when he started throwing the person he cheated on me with in my face. Had not been for NC, I would be on the floor crying, feeling like I was going to die. Those days are over...thank goodness. Take NC very, very seriously and try to stick with it. It really is the BEST thing you can do. For those who share kids with their ex, try to use NC as much as you can without it getting in the way of parenting your kids correctly. Three cheers for NC: Hip, Hip, HURRAY! Hip, Hip, HURRAY! Hip, Hip, HURRAY! 2
Gulf-Delta Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 Unless you go into NC on your own (as opposed to doing it because you're told you must), you're just playing a game and hurting yourself even more.
Author CopingGal Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 Another weekend I'm going through. I'm okay though. I think about NC and contacting my ex...usually just to tell him how disgusted I am with him and to force him to have a shred of remorse. But that's silly, I know. You can't make someone who has very, very, very small heart suddenly be an upstanding person. All you can do is accept that fact that is who that person is. Keeping NC is helping me do that.
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 NC sux!! But, contacting her is detrimental to my health. I am stuck between a rock and hard place...blah, blah, blah. The immature side of me wants to hear from her. Something...anything...even a "hi, how are you" text (that I usually despise) would mean the world to me right now. I need her to break NC, so I may hold on to my dignity! Suddenly, I remember a time in the past when I liked another girl and we weren't talking for awhile. I held off for atleast a month, then I finally broke. But, the interesting thing was, even though she was better at maintaing NC (as is everyone else in the world) than I was, she admitted to wanting to call me and not being over me. With that being said, I truly believe I have dated some pretty competitive women. So, competitive that no matter how much they want to talk to me, or see me, they will not allow their EGO to take a slight uppercut if they can help it. Damn this is hard!!
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