Radu Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 (edited) That would be a bummer as I am getting attached to her. I haven't mentioned that she has been starting fights for the most trivial things. She seems jealous, and insecure. I also find it strange that she offered and performed oral sex on me in the living room at her house while her teenage daughter was in the shower. She gave me the key to her house four weeks into the relationship. Huge freaking red flags. Yes! I do like her a lot. She is pretty normal kind, and sweet otherwise. She also got upset at me because a female friend of mine "liked" a few of my pictures on Facebook. She said it was inappropriate and that it was embarrassing to her that her friends would see the “likes.” She almost quit the relationship then. She has been bringing this issue and a couple of others while texting, never in person which I found strange coming from person who is a therapist. Ok, now is the point where i would run for the nearest exit. Edited July 9, 2012 by Radu 1
Author Love53 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Haha oh man. How many other girlfriends have you had with weird quirks? just kidding... If only that show were still airing... Remember the quote, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned." This is dangerous territory if she only starts nit picking by week 4. So I agree with the others: Tread lightly... And discuss those doubtful moments when they happen so she's not left with a big surprise if you decide it's not for you... Yesterday, she got upset again about a misconstrued comment I made a couple days ago while together. Again she brings it up while texting, not in person, and after the facts. I have had two other “wild” women like her in my life, and they both had issues, hence my seeing red flags. A friend of mine is suggesting that something happened to her as a child.
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 She sounds anything but normal...not sure what you're seeing here, this woman is going to be hyper jealous, territorial, clingy, extremely moody and intense emotional reactions...there are a ton of red flags. She's trying to settle you in by winning you over, I wouldn't take everything you know about her or see her now as normal, she's definitely going to start revealing who she really is, then the cum licking and towel sniffing isn't going to be so hot because you're scared for your life cause she's crazy!
Author Love53 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 She sounds anything but normal...not sure what you're seeing here, this woman is going to be hyper jealous, territorial, clingy, extremely moody and intense emotional reactions...there are a ton of red flags. She's trying to settle you in by winning you over, I wouldn't take everything you know about her or see her now as normal, she's definitely going to start revealing who she really is, then the cum licking and towel sniffing isn't going to be so hot because you're scared for your life cause she's crazy! I am seeing many red flags. I should've bailed out the first time she got upset about an insignificant stupid text message. You are right, it seems that she is trying to lock me in. Her behavior seems very teenage like; two weeks ago she gave me a pair of her worn panties to take with me to work. She has also offered to take and send racy pictures of herself. I was the last one to send a text yesterday after she brought up that other issue I posted about. She has been ignoring me ever since. No communication today so far.
Celtica Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I am seeing many red flags. I should've bailed out the first time she got upset about an insignificant stupid text message. You are right, it seems that she is trying to lock me in. Her behavior seems very teenage like; two weeks ago she gave me a pair of her worn panties to take with me to work. She has also offered to take and send racy pictures of herself. I was the last one to send a text yesterday after she brought up that other issue I posted about. She has been ignoring me ever since. No communication today so far. One thing I never understand is why sometimes people get so intimate so quickly without knowing the other person and what they're all about - not meaning to sound blunt, but maybe if you had gotten to know her without intimacy you would have been able to save yourself and her from drama and potential unpredictable scary behavior on her part by simply choosing not to even go there. In my opinion, I think it's really important to know of where another's threshold of attachment and intimacy lie (i.e. do they get super attached after a mere kiss, are they completely unattached after going all the way, etc.)... I think attachment is normal but it's important to be on the same level or at least understand each other from that standpoint. On the other hand, when someone is so incredibly comfortable about things that another person would feel uncomfortable about sharing right off the bat, then you have to wonder what their real dark secrets are... I mean goodness, if I were her, I wouldn't admit or show a guy I had that kind of liking towards semen until... I don't even know! A long ways after becoming intimate! 1
FitChick Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Because she was willing to marry a guy she wasn't attracted to who drank and used drugs she didn't approve of, coupled with the fact of her having kids, tells me she is desperate for a man to support her family. Where is the biological father and does he pay child support?
Author Love53 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Because she was willing to marry a guy she wasn't attracted to who drank and used drugs she didn't approve of, coupled with the fact of her having kids, tells me she is desperate for a man to support her family. Where is the biological father and does he pay child support? She has financial trouble, and her ex is unemployed, so there is no child support coming in. She's bought me dinner a couple times, and cooks for me. Her house is ever so slowly falling apart, and I have been fixing minor things around, even though she says I don't have to. She made it clear she doesn't need a man to take care of her in that regard.
Author Love53 Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 Relationship is over, and I am glad. There were too many red flags. I am also sad, but the fact she seems unstable helps to cope with the break up.
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