Loss Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I dated a really amazing to me girl in April-May. She's very nice and sweet and everything that I could ever hope for. We agreed to take it slow when we started dating and went out about 5 times. I thought things were going just fine but I was very wrong (I now realize just how many mistakes I was making and really wish I could turn back the time to undo them) and she asked to be just friends. Later that evening when I asked her about us I felt that maybe she regretted her decision but still wasn't sure about me. Some days later I asked her what made her decide to be just friends and if there's anything I can do to possibly change her mind. She didn't want to talk about it but in a quick sentence she hinted that I'm too quite. Since then we've been texting as friends and I try not to bring it up anymore, but it bothers me so much still. I really like her. Two weeks ago after I didn't text her for a while she texted me. We chatted about nothing serious and I thought maybe it's a sign she might want to try again. I asked her if she was free on some day and she said she would be busy studying on that day. Sometimes I don't think about her, but it comes back eventually. I even went to another city for vacation this past week and didn't make any contact with her (except a post on Facebook) but now that I'm back I miss her again. While I was away on vacation I bought her a souvenir, cheap and simple and I think something that may make her smile, but now I don't know if it's a good idea to give it to her and if it would mean something. What do you guys think?
sid33 Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I dated a really amazing to me girl in April-May. She's very nice and sweet and everything that I could ever hope for. We agreed to take it slow when we started dating and went out about 5 times. I thought things were going just fine but I was very wrong (I now realize just how many mistakes I was making and really wish I could turn back the time to undo them) and she asked to be just friends. Later that evening when I asked her about us I felt that maybe she regretted her decision but still wasn't sure about me. Some days later I asked her what made her decide to be just friends and if there's anything I can do to possibly change her mind. She didn't want to talk about it but in a quick sentence she hinted that I'm too quite. Since then we've been texting as friends and I try not to bring it up anymore, but it bothers me so much still. I really like her. Two weeks ago after I didn't text her for a while she texted me. We chatted about nothing serious and I thought maybe it's a sign she might want to try again. I asked her if she was free on some day and she said she would be busy studying on that day. Sometimes I don't think about her, but it comes back eventually. I even went to another city for vacation this past week and didn't make any contact with her (except a post on Facebook) but now that I'm back I miss her again. While I was away on vacation I bought her a souvenir, cheap and simple and I think something that may make her smile, but now I don't know if it's a good idea to give it to her and if it would mean something. What do you guys think? I think meeting some new girls would be the quickest way to get over this one. Not only that, but having more than one option will help prevent you from making the same mistakes in the future. Don't bother telling us, "she's special" cause honestly, when wanting to get in their pants they're all special.
Author Loss Posted July 8, 2012 Author Posted July 8, 2012 I don't think that getting in her pants was ever my first priority. I really liked spending time with her. I agree that I need to meet other girls.
sid33 Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I don't think that getting in her pants was ever my first priority. Funny how that works, had it been you probably wouldn't have been put in the friendzone.
Author Loss Posted July 8, 2012 Author Posted July 8, 2012 I guess I'm just looking for something long-term and she is the kind of girl I would take home to my parents. I wish I'd known what I know now when we started dating. Is there any chance of getting out of a friend zone if we're talking as friends?
daphne Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I guess I'm just looking for something long-term and she is the kind of girl I would take home to my parents. I wish I'd known what I know now when we started dating. Is there any chance of getting out of a friend zone if we're talking as friends? Sadly, probably not. Early on, it's good not to lay out all of your cards on the table as it takes away challenge. I think you did that. But it also sounds like she possibly prefers an extrovert, which it doesn't sound like you are. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong. You just need someone who likes your quietness.
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