Girlfriend cheated?

[Dribz]

I'm having a hard time coping with a relationship.

 

See, me and my girlfriend have been going out for one year and seven months and we've always loved each other, we have had our fights now and then but you know, we got through them.

 

We go to like, every party together and we always spend the night with eachother when we do go.

 

But she went to Wales last year and came back acting pretty chuffed around her friend and laughing as she told her that she kissed this super hot guy that they were always obsessing over, she brought her outside the door to tell her, and of course I knew something was up. So I brought her outside, and she told me, and this led to a pretty stupid fight, and she ended up begging me on her knees to take her back, that she was sorry and that it wouldn't happen again.

And she genuinely seemed sorry about it, besides, I've spoken to the guy and her and they both tell me it was just a kiss, like a peck on the lips.

 

That was at the end of last Summer, so about eleven months from now, I guess it seemed pretty harmless and it was the guy that kissed her, and he was really sorry after it because he had a girlfriend at the time, and he told her, and it didn't end so well.

 

But anyway, back to the point, she again went to Wales this Summer, she left about four days ago now, and she is coming back this Wednesday.

But the main part of this post is the incident that happened in Wales this Summer. She was going to a festival called Wakestock, it seems pretty cool, but she was going with her best friend, and I don't think she particularly likes me that much.

 

Anyway, at this festival on the first day they set up camp, her and her friend met up with this group of guys that her friend knows because she has a house over there. There's about five guys in total and they're all younger than the two girls. But on the third day in, that night, my girlfriend rang me on the phone while I was somewhere with my friend and told me that she was a little bit drunk, she had told me before that she wasn't going to get that drunk but you know, it's a festival, I don't really mind if she gets drunk as long as she was having fun. But then she started complaining to me that she had a tiny ball of adenosine stuck in her nose, and my girlfriend was never one for drugs, ever, she hated them. But at the time, I held my temper and kept it cool at the time because I didn't want to make a scene. But on the way home I texted her and said something like, "You absolute hypocrite.." blah, blah, blah. But it all lead to a pretty huge argument and so, I rang her and asked if she was going to get off with any guys, just out of rage, and she said "I don't think so" I'm hoping/guessing that she said that out of rage as well.

 

I continued to text her, wanting to know all the details of what she was going to do and basically her perspective on the whole situation was that I wasn't letting her have fun and I don't see how sniffing f*cking painkillers is having fun, even it was "for a joke".

 

Later that night, as I have found out this morning, she "kissed" a guy, because she was 'so drunk' and because I was being a "d*ck".

From 1AM to 6AM I had been trying to contact her but she wasn't answering because someone was sleeping on her phone, and then about 10AM this morning, I tried calling again, twice and no answer. So I gave her mum a call, and told her everything that happened, I know it may sound dumb telling her mum that my girlfriend cheated on me, but we get along pretty well and she said that she wouldn't tell her, just advise me on what to do.

 

She wasn't much of a help, but she did give my girlfriend a call to see if everything was okay, and when her mum asked, she had said that she wasn't drinking, but she did say that we had a row last night, not about what, though.

 

Since I have been talking to my girlfriend, she has said sorry quite a few times, but you know what, it just doesn't cut it. Since she said "I don't think so" I cannot express any emotions whatsoever, although I did get a bit of a cry this morning.

 

I have been texting her since and she has said that I've been ruining her fun and that she stopped it right away because she felt bad, this was after I asked her did she think was she did was right.

I then asked was she drinking tonight, and she said that she was and I asked was she going to kiss this guy again and again said "I don't think so". At hearing this, I flipped out and she stopped me saying "No, no, I'm not".

 

But I'm struggling on where to go or what to do from here, any suggestions will be absolutely great.

 

Thanks guys.

[EgoJoe]

It's over.

 

One text will suffice, "I'm done. You know why. My decision is final, don't contact me, goodbye."

 

Cut contact and heal. You'll be a stronger and wiser for it.

[Dblock10]

dude! sounds heavy!

 

but you sound better than this.. why drag yourself through this lol!

 

but yeah, you do seem way to "on to her" almost like trying or mimicking what her dad ought to be saying :s i know you care for her but, people always do what they are told not to.

 

let her get on with it, once she is back from the festival then ask her how it went. don't initiate contact let her come to you.

 

people are in relationships because of trust and fun.

[ihateslowjams]

Honestly, i would follow what egojoe advised. She kissed another guy the first time and you forgave her after she begged and pleaded you to give her another chance, while promising to never do it again. However, she did... and you still want her back?

 

It seems to me it'll escalate from a simple kiss to something more drastic. I say leave her now because apparently, she hasn't learned anything from her past mistakes. Makes me wonder what other mistakes will she make and not learn from...