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Hello and thanks in advance for reading everyone! I'm new here. : D

 

I have an amazing girlfriend, we love each other like crazy, and we've been going out for almost a year and a half now, purely long distance. I live in Wisconsin, and she lives in Missouri. I visited her last year in July, and granted we were only together three days, but it was the best three days of my life easily. I haven't been with her since though. We've been trying to see each other again but due to many events from both of our ends (family, school, she had to move, etc.) we haven't been able to ever since then.

 

I was hoping to visit her last month at the beginning of June, when my birthday was, unfortunately, I was very sick with mono and wasn't able to travel. It was a very down time, and I am still recovering from it. I confessed to my mother when we were in the doctor's office (on one of the many checkups) that I was wishing/hoping that my girlfriend would surprise me and visit me on my birthday, or that we would surprise her. That's all I really wanted for my birthday.

 

So, fast forward two months ahead now, and I'm left curious to if the plans are in motion...My mom has been acting strange around me, almost "secretive" and at times really giddy, like she knows something. She did get a new boyfriend she really likes recently but...I'm not sure if it's ALL him. It's only been about a week for their dating. I even just teased her tonight and said "You're up to something" and all she did was give a sly smile and claim that she wasn't.

 

And my girlfriend seems the same way too. Not that I don't love seeing her in good moods, but, she's been happy like my mother is too. Whenever I mention on hopes of seeing her or being with her, she agrees and reassures me that we'll see each other soon, that she misses me and wants to be with me (she just told me the other day she can't wait to see me again), and then, seems a bit quick to change the subject!

 

It's really odd something just seems very...off, with the both of them. My mom and my girlfriend have even texted each other back and forth. My mom planned a surprise birthday party two years ago with my good friend behind my back without me figuring it out until the last minute sooooooo very well. So, am I having too high of hopes thinking my girlfriend and mother are up to something? Or am I just over analyzing? Any feedback, opinions, or advice would be really appreciated, thank you again and have a lovely day/night!

Edited by Believe_love
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First of all, luckily you didn't meet last month. You had mono and it would have ruined it somehow. Now I guess you've recovered, right?

 

Try a move to see if anything's up with them. You throw the idea that you are looking for flight rates, and ask your gf what days would be better to visit her.

 

Do that while your mother is at home. If you're chatting, say you need to go to the bathroom, then you ask your mother the very same thing, right away and very quickly. If any of them puts down the idea, something's definitely up. Most likely one of them will give away some hint. On the contrary, if they both support you in buying the flight tickets, then be sure that 99% your gf is not arranging any plans for a surprise visit.

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why spoil a surprise! also i dont think snooping around will impress those trying to surprise you!

 

if she doesnt come, go to her.... simples

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I don't think that would spoil the surprise in any way. He would just know whether she's coming or not. He wouldn't know WHEN and where exactly. She could show up anywhere, anytime... So no, definitely not. That would not spoil the surprise.

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why spoil a surprise! also i dont think snooping around will impress those trying to surprise you!

 

if she doesnt come, go to her.... simples

 

Plus, you never know. Perhaps his mom has bought airline tickets *for him* to go *visit her* as a surprise and the two of them (mom and g/f) are in on the plot. :cool:

 

OP, just chill out and see what happens. There's always a chance that nothing's up, and if you keep obsessing and convincing yourself something is, if you're wrong, you'll be much more down-hearted and disappointed.

 

Best,

TMichaels

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Thanks everyone for your advice! I appreciate it! But I uh, I'm actually a girl too, haha, I should've clarified that at the beginning!

 

But today I was texting my girlfriend about how my mom has been acting a bit strange, and she was only sending one word replies to me like "weird" which she hardly ever does. And when I asked her if she had any idea why it might be she got immediately defensive, saying "Why should I know?" and then moved the subject quickly away. It's odd, she hardly ever gets that defensive!

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Thanks everyone for your advice! I appreciate it! But I uh, I'm actually a girl too, haha, I should've clarified that at the beginning!

 

Doesn't matter. My advice still stands. Take a chill pill and see what/if anything develops. If nothing does, then make plans to see each other as soon as you're able and have a good laugh about it all. ;)

 

Best,

TMichaels

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Doesn't matter. My advice still stands. Take a chill pill and see what/if anything develops. If nothing does, then make plans to see each other as soon as you're able and have a good laugh about it all. ;)

 

Best,

TMichaels

 

Thanks TMichaels! And everyone else too again. I hope to see her very soon, one way or another! Have a great day/night. : D

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