Seneca Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I don´t get it. Men seem to find me better looking than women do. I have been getting compliments from random guys saying that i am handsome/look pretty good. (just talking with them for 1-2 min) and from male friends. Still i have only had handful of those compliments from women on my looks (irl). They say either they enjoy talking to me/ or that i am funny. (and often want nothing more from me than that.) their compliments seem to be on my personality rather than looks. Strange...... somebody knows why? You probably are good looking. But if you are looking for validation from women. It's very rare that they will verbally tell you that... Wait. I lied. Women have called me pretty boy, handsome, gorgeous, and "the most attractive man they've ever seen". Yeah I don't know... But you got me beat on one department. I've never had straight men say that I am handsome. But does it really matter? Just because you are physically good looking, it still doesn't mean anything. It's a nice ego boost. But other than that it's meaningless when it comes to getting women. There was a debate on this on another forum about how looks do matter but in another aspect. I may post it as a new thread as I notice that some people here get too caught up with their appearances.
USMCHokie Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 Fact of the matter is I see you twisting the words of what others are saying to conform it to your idealogy... Actually, I'm not really trying to "conform" anyone to any particular ideology. If you look at my posts, a vast majority of my sentences are questions, as I try to get the other poster to think about what he or she had just said. Sarcasm is not always intended; only the simple Socratic method of getting the other person to arrive at the answer on their own with the use of questions to guide them. And I don't necessarily feel that I'm twisting words...I'm simply drawing reasonable inferences.
ohmygoshistalk Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 ive had more compliments from women than men..ive considered going lesbian but i am too straight at the moment. care to share your pic, op?
maybealone Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I am a woman, and I rarely tell a guy I am not involved with or not already friends with that he's handsome or good looking. I have just met too many men that are quick to paint a woman as desperate when they perceive her to be "coming on" to them. So I'm a little jaded in that area.
iris219 Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 It’s likely your friends are right. There is probably nothing wrong with the way you look. However, just being good looking is not enough to attract a woman. I’ve seen guys who I can tell are attractive, but I know I could never be attracted to them. It’s something about their energy/essence that just doesn’t do it for me. I'm often more attracted to less traditionally attractive men who have that extra something (pheromones?). This is where I feel a lot of sympathy for men. I think for most men, if they meet a woman who is nice and pretty, they will be attracted to her. Meeting a nice and attractive man is a start for a woman, but it definitely doesn’t guarantee attraction.
kaylan Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 (edited) Really OP? A man is not going to be able to accurately identify if women find you attractive. So take those guys compliments with a grain of salt. In any case, dont stress whether or not women pay compliments to you or not. Just do your thing and build up some confidence bro. Edited July 8, 2012 by kaylan
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