lolitta Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 (edited) i moved from California to a small town in Ohio to be with him after he proposed to me ( We've in distance relationship for 2 years ) Every time he get angry , he start telling me bad and mean words. He yell at me and threaten to hit me. Now i move back to California and left my forniture ! he doesn't wanna give it to me back ( couch , bed , dishes and other things ) I i gave him his ring back he text me saying another girl is comming tonight and we gonna enjoy your couch i feeel soo angry !! All my stuff that rest there worth about more than 3500$ I was stupid ! I thought he was a good man and I got so excited for having my fairytale wedding I can't go again to Ohio or file a claim because it will cost me a lot of money its been now 2 month ago and i getting more obsessed about him and getting his facebook password ,I feel so depressed ! I can't eat or sleep he hurted me a lot, he texts me that he miss me and he loves me , i cant get back to him , i feellike he should give me my forniture back before he try to fix things i love him so much , its hurts me , i cant eat or sleep. I dunno what is right to do ? Edited July 8, 2012 by lolitta
ladyabstrused Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I'm so sorry to hear about your situation... :\ *hugs* Hope you're at least taking care of yourself. You need to do that for your own well-being. No one else will. If you really want your furniture back, can't you get movers or something to take your stuff out? Don't you have access to that place since you were staying there?
LovinCousins Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 (edited) If you only had a long distance relationship to begin with you never really knew him : (. Block his number from the phone company. Suck up the 3 grand and craiglist some used Ikea stuff (I did a house for 400 dollars). I have a used California King from a 90 pound model for 80 dollars. Who needs a couch; use lawn chairs you'll find a real man that doesn't care about the material aspect of your life. On the subject of him... Violent tendencies, anger issues, abusive words, harassing texts, manipulation with marriage and I'm sure there was more you don't want to relive. Add up what you got out of the situation... He's clearly got no value for your feelings, as he states he's using your couch for his new girl (this confirms to me, he was doing this during the LDR too). Lets list out just the big negatives you gave us, it might help you get over him: 1) Isolated you - by moving you 2) Abused you - emotionally at least 3) Manipulated you - by proposing 4) Robbed your - furniture 5) Harassed you - constantly by text If a man loves you, he may take you somewhere isolated for a weekend; but none of that list is something you want from a husband, or boyfriend. None of his good traits matter, the actual physical abuse would've come at some point. I'm generalizing he is a drunk too? Edited July 9, 2012 by LovinCousins Edited sure to generalizing
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