Zammo25 Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I am seeing someone else but still think about the ex all the time when I am with them. This new person is a lovely Woman, hot, kind, interesting and genuine and seems to be into me. Why then am I still thinking of the ex when I am with her ? Why do I still want to be sitting with the ex especially when I was told this week she has met someone else and for me to not contact her again ? I do not want to blow things with the new woman but I think she is picking up the vibes something is not right and as I have feeling ill at ease. This has only come to a head recently and my head is mashed up. What should I do ? I don't want the memory of the ex to ruin a good chance for me.
k100danny Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 It sounds to me like you aren't ready for a relationship and I think the fairest thing to do is to be honest with the woman that you would like to take it slow and see what happens. You seem to have a consience about it which is good, A lot of people date others when they aren't ready and it really isn't fair on the other person at all. This person may be a great person but if you don't feel that way now you just probably arent ready, it's a shame as sometimes nice people come along at times when we can't embrace it. Just make sure you are honest and consider the other persons feelings also.
Author Zammo25 Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 I just wish my ex was not still in my head especially after the news she is with someone else and not to contact her, via a mutual friend. I don't want to blow it with someone new who is ticking a lot of boxes and be sat at home in a month on my own and blowing this whilst the ex has moved on and shagging someone else. This sucks.
k100danny Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 You can't force yourself to move on quicker though, well some people do find having a rebound allows them to move on quicker. It seems you are worried about not finding someone else an the fact your ex may get into a relationship first though while you are single and this shouldnt be your worry. take the time to heal and then move on fresh. That is my advice anyway.
melvin Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 To be perfectly honest, I think its not a bad thing. You are obviously not over your ex, and you shouldn't lead this new woman around. But I would test the waters at least a little more, spend more time with her, get to know her a little bit better. If, say another couple of outings, that you still don't feel anything. You shouldn't drag her along.
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