Penney2010 Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Ok so I am in desperate need of help here. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! So to begin with I really started to like this guy last summer. We were friends, he was a nice guy so I fell for him. I thought he had feelings for me with his constant texting, chatting and flirty behaviour. However, it turned out I was wrong. On a night out my friend got a bit tipsy and decided to blurt to him how I felt about him. I was mortified! After this he became a complete jerk. He stopped texting me and chatting to him was more than awkward. Anyway to cut a long story short I realised he was just the same as all the other jerks out there. So my feelings for him soon dwindled. Just last week, however, this guy came back into my life. He is as friendly as ever and seems to want to talk like we used to. To be honest I don't want to rekindle the feelings I had for him after the way he treated me but I don't know how to send that signal to him. Do I ignore him? Does he like me?! Its all very confusing!! As if that wasn't enough to contend with I have recently developed really strong feelings for one of my guy friends. He is the nicest,sweetest most caring guy I have ever met. He is funny and always in good humour. Bascally he is my dream guy! We get on really well and can talk freely with each other. Lately a lot of people have been asking me do I have a thing for him. Also people have been commenting on how cute a couple we would make. I don't know what to do. How do I let him know discreetly that I like him? How do I read him to see if he has feelings for me? What do I do!?!! Any advice would mean the world to me. Really I am in quite a muddle with this and I don't want to spend everyday thinking about what to do! Thanks for your time and for reading this!
Snakechammah Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 First of all, ignore the first guy. If a guy makes you feel like crap, cut him out and move on. Never allow someone to treat you badly, respect yourself and distance yourself from the jerk. Now that you've developed feelings for this new guy, pursue him subtlely. Make sure he is really interested and not history repeating itself. Checklist: Does he... 1. text you FIRST and regularly? 2. makes a point to see you on weekends and during the days he is free - in the morning, afternoon, evening (at primetime and not odd hours) 3. remembers what you say, your favourite things 4. polite and cares about your feelings 5. apologizes when he is wrong, and tries to pacify you when you are upset 6. tries to pay for the outing 7. always trying to get you into his life 8. introduce you to all his friends, family and make you visible in his facebook If the answers are yes to the above, then do this: Try to initiate physical contact with him. When you go out next time, make sure you accidentally brush your skin against his, or lean closer and breathe into his personal space, or casually touch his cheek while gazing into his eyes.... do subtle things that ignite his sexual interest. It will set him thinking about you in a different light (if not already) and trigger for him to make a move. To get out of the friendzone area, you need to take a step further - not by asking, but by showing. If he pulls away, you know he's not interested - but at least you didn't get verbally rejected. He will wonder WTF, but it doesn't give him an opportunity to diss you outright. Your ego is saved! These sexy actions will also create a hint of mystery. It will draw him out of sexual curiosity and make him PURSUE you. So in a way, you set the trap for him to ACT on it. Once he starts the effort, the world (and most importantly, HIM) will think that HE is the one pursuing you. Once that is ingrained, you're good to go. Let him chase you. You get what you want. He gets what he wants. Happy ending. Good luck.
Radu Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 Ok so I am in desperate need of help here. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! So to begin with I really started to like this guy last summer. We were friends, he was a nice guy so I fell for him. I thought he had feelings for me with his constant texting, chatting and flirty behaviour. However, it turned out I was wrong. On a night out my friend got a bit tipsy and decided to blurt to him how I felt about him. I was mortified! After this he became a complete jerk. He stopped texting me and chatting to him was more than awkward. Anyway to cut a long story short I realised he was just the same as all the other jerks out there. So my feelings for him soon dwindled. Sounds more like shyness to me tbh, that's how i used to act even at the bright age of 23 when a girl liked me. Why don't you ask him why did he stop it ? The word got around about you and your new guy friend before this 1st guy came back ? Because if i am right about the shyness and this, he is interested ... just doesn't know how to show it.
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