teaforone Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I've known this guy for a year but we didn't really talk until the beginning of June. Now, we talk all the time mostly via texting and for awhile it was 50/50 on who initiated contact first. Lately though, it seems like i'm the only one doing the work. He always replies, he always keeps the conversation going, we end up talking for hours, asks me questions, and sometimes flirts. I went a few days without talking but he never got in contact with me those days. I asked him if he liked our conversations, thought i was annoying, etc...but he said he liked talking to me, that he doesn't talk to anyone else this much and i'm not annoying. Then he proceeded to ask if i thought he was annoying. I actually made some joke about how if he doesn't play such and such game then i don't think we can talk anymore. Then he got all upset and said i better not. He did the same thing to me last week though, always picking on me and giving me a hard time. We keep talking about hanging out, and how we'd like to hang out with each other but so far its not worked out due to work schedules. We're aiming for the 21st to go see a band together thats playing in town. We also have this list of movies we keep adding to for us to have movie nights, and again because of schedules it's not worked so far. We're also both in our early 20s. So are we just buddies that talk all the time, or has he just gotten used to me contacting him first?
Algermas Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Until you've had sex with him he's not going to waste too much time and effort on you. Yes I said waste, as far as men are concerned "getting to know eachother" is just a hurdle women place between us and their vagina.
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 He's not your buddy, you're just a convenient option that he might follow through. IF he was really interested in you then he'd be more aggressive and try to see you sooner, regardless of what his schedule was...plus you guys are in your early 20's you're not exactly going to your corporate job with a ton of responsibility, you stay up late, can sleep little, etc...so I'm not really buying this busy schedule thing at all, that's just an excuse. He's just putting in the effort that he has to, just to keep things going along...eventually he'll see you, see how far he can get with you then back off If it were to get into a serious direction. The list of movies means he'll sex you up during or after each one, but don't think that's a way of bonding or a sign of anything serious. Unless It's easy/convenient, something he wants to do or he knows he's going to get something out of it...don't expect much. I'm sure he's had free time and an opportunity to see you he just didn't make the effort.
veggirl Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 (edited) He's not interested, I'm sorry. I mean really how "busy" are you both that you can't agree on one night to watch a movie? He is just using you to fill time, to not be bored. He doesn't dislike you, he just doesn't really care. He is neutral. That's why you have to initiate. Don't contact him, as you know he won't persue you so just let it drop off because you are wasting your time and you are going to get hurt and I would feel comfortable betting a hundred bucks that this concert date on the 21st never actually happens. Edited July 7, 2012 by veggirl
funlady Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 He's not interested, I'm sorry. I mean really how "busy" are you both that you can't agree on one night to watch a movie? He is just using you to fill time, to not be bored. He doesn't dislike you, he just doesn't really care. He is neutral. That's why you have to initiate. Don't contact him, as you know he won't persue you so just let it drop off because you are wasting your time and you are going to get hurt and I would feel comfortable betting a hundred bucks that this concert date on the 21st never actually happens. I was thinking the same thing about the concert... Not sure what is going on but if he was interested you'd know.
phineas Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 Unless really shy or awkword Around women, you are giving him every oportunity to meet with you and he isn't taking it. What does that tell you?
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