Ducky23 Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I've made it 2 weeks NC with MM, and I've posted here ALOT. Mostly because the responses I get have forced me to think of things I never would have before. I don't obsess about MM or miss him every day like I did in the beginning, but it's because of posting here. I've looked at the whole thing subjectively and realized that there were a lot of warning signs I was missing, things I should have seen and didn't. This has made it easier to get over. But I'm curious.. What "red flags" or "warning signs" were there at the end of someone else's A? If you ended it, how long did it take to make that decision? If they ended it, did you see it coming? Mine was so a-typical I'm learning, that it's probably very different for everyone. I'm intrigued by the answers I've received here and wish to learn more. I thank you in advance for sharing with me.
MissBee Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I've made it 2 weeks NC with MM, and I've posted here ALOT. Mostly because the responses I get have forced me to think of things I never would have before. I don't obsess about MM or miss him every day like I did in the beginning, but it's because of posting here. I've looked at the whole thing subjectively and realized that there were a lot of warning signs I was missing, things I should have seen and didn't. This has made it easier to get over. But I'm curious.. What "red flags" or "warning signs" were there at the end of someone else's A? Not sure what you meant about warning signs at the end. There were warning signs from the beginning lol. Do you mean warning signs that you didn't pay attention to but rediscovered when it ended? If you ended it, how long did it take to make that decision? I told him we needed to be friends and not be romantic, about a year and a half or so into it. But we still communicated and essentially nothing changed...so it ended up with him being the one to go NC ending it for real, a few months later. If they ended it, did you see it coming? I did see it coming. Within my own self, I got more and more dissatisfied with it, so I initiated the end first. But after a while, got sucked back in. Overtime, we got to a point where he was communicating less, from everyday, to every few days, to once a week. His company had a new client on another continent allegedly was the story, and so he was at work a lot later and at odd hours because of the time difference and it made him busy and tired so he couldn't talk as much . He'd apologize and say he'd make it up...but he seemed to grow more distant and when I called he'd be too busy, which NEVER happened before. I started to know then that he was pulling away and that either a dday happened or he was changing his mind. He'd then email me apologizing for his absence and tried to assure me he was very much inlove with me but was going through a trying time he found hard to share. I dropped it and decided to do my own thing versus delay the inevitable...so I didn't call him anymore and he didn't call me either. He'd email me once in a while to schedule a call time, claiming he called and wouldn't get me, but he never did call. I finally would reach out and he wouldn't respond and so that started NC for a year, until he popped back up a year later. So it was a slow death that I could see coming based on all the above events. Mine was so a-typical I'm learning, that it's probably very different for everyone. I'm intrigued by the answers I've received here and wish to learn more. I thank you in advance for sharing with me. Answers in bold
Author Ducky23 Posted July 8, 2012 Author Posted July 8, 2012 Yes, MissBee, you're correct, the question I was trying to ask was: Did you see it coming? Regardless of who ended it, how long did you know it was going to end before it was over?
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