Cathster Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 My boyfriend sent me a brief text on Tuesday to say that the internet was down and he'd contact me again when he could. Usually he doesn't have many opportunities to phone so I didn't expect to hear from him for a few days anyway. Next thing I know I get an e-mail from him late on Thursday to say that he had injured himself and had been laid up in the medical centre for the past couple days, at one point they were concerned he might need to go to hospital and have an operation. Luckily he is on the mend now but it was touch and go for a bit and all I could do was sit at home and wait for him to contact me. Every minute that I didn't have contact was a minute wondering if he was okay. I am going on holiday on Tuesday, and up until Thursday I was so excited. Now all I can think is, what if something else happens, or he takes a turn for the worse - the limited contact we have now is going to be even less. I have told him this and asked him to check in with me regularly just to let me know he's okay. I had just got used to dealing with only hearing from him every couple of days and not obsessing about it, and now I am right back to obsessing all over again, but with added worry on top! I'm sure it's not as bad as I am picturing in my head but I really hate not being there when he's in pain and bedridden, especially when he had been for two days without me even knowing he had injured himself
folieadeux Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's the most frustrating thing ever; it's virtually impossible for us to be there for our SO's when they're ill (or them for us) because we spend so much time apart. Chances are when one or both of us is sick, we can't be together. Is there any way you can use some of your holiday time to visit him? I'm sure you'll feel better seeing him in person and seeing for yourself that he's okay.
Author Cathster Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 There is no way for me to see him - I am going to be on a ship for the next 2 weeks from Tuesday and I can't afford to go and visit him anyway. Not only that but I don't think his workplace allows outside visitors. I've not heard from him yet today - he is being discharged today and common sense is telling me he's had to go straight back to work but there's this part of me worrying that I've not heard from him because he's got worse. I don't know how I'm going to stop my brain thinking like this for the next two months. Ugh.
folieadeux Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 Is there anyone you can at least contact where he is (friends, co-workers, etc.) just to check in to see how he is? You can also contact the hospital to see if in fact he has been discharged or admitted again. If he's not able to contact you right away, you're going to have to do some investigative work on your own as best you can. I'd be going crazy too, I totally get it.
Author Cathster Posted July 8, 2012 Author Posted July 8, 2012 Still no word from him, this is so frustrating! I have the name of one of his co-workers so can send him a Facebook message if I don't hear anything in the next day or so. That won't be a fast response though, as they work very long shifts and don't get much opportunity to use the internet - once every couple days usually. I do feel like I am going crazy, every time I go and check my e-mails or the time when he would usually call passes and there's nothing from him my heart sinks a bit more! I'm back to the first stages of our LDR when I was constantly checking for any contact. I'd got so much better, too. I am trying to tell myself he is just back at work and too busy to contact - this lack of contact is usual for when he's working, but his being injured has made me start thinking of all these worst case scenarios. My brain thinks too much!
Author Cathster Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 Yes thank goodness - got a call from him yesterday. It was that he was back at work and just too busy to contact and he is well on the way to full recovery now. They were on the verge of sending him home so at least I know if he gets worse he will be coming back and I won't have to go through this again! It didn't help that his best friend said that he wouldn't be surprised if my boyfriend had overdone it and made things worse! However all is good now and he has promised to keep me updated as much as he can while I'm away. 5
HeavenOrHell Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 So glad you heard he's ok, I even dislike it when my partner has a tummy upset or bad cold or something and I'm not there to look after him, I'd absolutely hate it if he were in hospital and I couldn't visit him Hope you can enjoy your holiday now you know he's ok!
folieadeux Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 So glad you heard from him. Hope you have a great holiday!
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