Biscous Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 She broke up with me roughly six weeks ago to start an unpaid internship. She said that her future was not with me in Texas (she lives in Georgia) and she needs to focus on her plans after graduating. That's fine, but the way she did it was immature and selfish. She had me buy a plane ticket 11 days before she wanted to come and see me. This was mutual. She intended to use her money to pay for some of the moving costs. Long story short, she didn't come as soon as she got an offer for the internship, which started much earlier than she told me before. This threw me for a loop. A few days later she breaks up with me on FB. A few weeks later she removes pictures of her and I together, and then later removes me as a friend. Meanwhile I am inactive from FB for a month doing the NC thing, doing new things in my life, meeting new people. She only contacted me around the time of the break up for something she wanted back which I did not return because she has not returned things of mine. A few days ago she messages me with "Hey", which is a bit of a ping to get my attention. I know now she is speaking with her ex-fiance from a few years ago (our relationship was roughly a year and the ex-fiance was her previous relationship and she told me how horrible he was and how she got a restraining order on him, etc) who lives in New York now and they were planning on meeting. SO, why is she attempting to contact me again after all of this? I didn't take the bait to talk to her, but this is a bit frustrating. We had great memories together, but she chose to make the break up difficult and how it went down was so abrupt. To say she needed space and then jumps back into a relationship tells me she was having these feelings or being deceptive a while before this happened. Just wanting some input on this.
ladyabstrused Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I don't think she's over you yet. Perhaps she realises how much she misses you. Or is feeling lonely. Is she and her ex-fiance together again? Maybe she just wants to meet him because she's feeling lonely and there is no one else closer to her besides you, and the fact that you didn't respond has made her "look" for someone else.
Author Biscous Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 I don't think she's over you yet. Perhaps she realises how much she misses you. Or is feeling lonely. Is she and her ex-fiance together again? Maybe she just wants to meet him because she's feeling lonely and there is no one else closer to her besides you, and the fact that you didn't respond has made her "look" for someone else. No I don't think they are together. I think she was in contact with him a few weeks after we broke up though. It does seem like she's seeking comfort in what she knows.
ladyabstrused Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 No I don't think they are together. I think she was in contact with him a few weeks after we broke up though. It does seem like she's seeking comfort in what she knows. Yeah, I think this is the case. You should continue NC and move on. Wasted plane ticket and she obviously doesn't consider your feelings and the things that you have done for her. She should have told you about the internship much earlier and she should not have agreed for you to buy her a plane ticket if she wasn't sure at all. How does one decide to just cancel a flight to see their SO just like that, especially when you say that she had known about the internship for quite some time already. I think that's selfish and disrespectful. Glad you didn't respond to her. It would have only caused you more hurt.
Author Biscous Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Yeah, I think this is the case. You should continue NC and move on. Wasted plane ticket and she obviously doesn't consider your feelings and the things that you have done for her. She should have told you about the internship much earlier and she should not have agreed for you to buy her a plane ticket if she wasn't sure at all. How does one decide to just cancel a flight to see their SO just like that, especially when you say that she had known about the internship for quite some time already. I think that's selfish and disrespectful. Glad you didn't respond to her. It would have only caused you more hurt. Indeed. What a pity how things turned out.
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