cchianese36 Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I dated a girl for about 3 months a year ago and even though it was a short time i never really got over her and the reason for the break up was her ex boyfriend. Now we're bestfriends and we talked about getting back together because we both have feelings for eachother and she says we should wait the summer. She swears she's over her ex now but she says she wants to stay single for the summer. She talks to a lot of guys and I'm confused why she would want to wait if she has feelings for me. Am I making a mistake waiting for a girl who has hurt me in the past or should i just wait and see what happens. I could really use some help with this.
Balzac Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Oh wow, friends not lovers. Sounds like you are not catching on to her keeping you on standby. Sorry guy but you are getting played. 1
Robert Z Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I dated a girl for about 3 months a year ago and even though it was a short time i never really got over her and the reason for the break up was her ex boyfriend. Now we're bestfriends and we talked about getting back together because we both have feelings for eachother and she says we should wait the summer. She swears she's over her ex now but she says she wants to stay single for the summer. She talks to a lot of guys and I'm confused why she would want to wait if she has feelings for me. Am I making a mistake waiting for a girl who has hurt me in the past or should i just wait and see what happens. I could really use some help with this. It sounds to me like you might be a safety net. She might be using you as a safe zone while exploring other possibilities. So I would stay friends but move on with your life. If it's going to work out, at the least she needs some time. If you have someone else to see, do it.
Author cchianese36 Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 It sounds to me like you might be a safety net. She might be using you as a safe zone while exploring other possibilities. So I would stay friends but move on with your life. If it's going to work out, at the least she needs some time. If you have someone else to see, do it. I forgot to say that we've been spending a lot of time alone together too and she has told me that i'm the only guy she feels comfortable around. And she said she wants to wait the summer because she doesn't want to mess anything up like she did the last time. I wish had someone else that catches my eye but there isn't. do you think it's smart to just go with the flow and see what happens. And if it doesnt work out then it's whatever im going to college in a year anyway lol i'll find a girl there.
Robert Z Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I forgot to say that we've been spending a lot of time alone together too and she has told me that i'm the only guy she feels comfortable around. And she said she wants to wait the summer because she doesn't want to mess anything up like she did the last time. I wish had someone else that catches my eye but there isn't. do you think it's smart to just go with the flow and see what happens. And if it doesnt work out then it's whatever im going to college in a year anyway lol i'll find a girl there. Her claim is reasonable. If you think she is being sincere then why not give her some time? Just don't leave yourself completely vulnerable. She may be using you and not even know it herself. 1
revenant Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 The bad option is she wants to keep you available but see if there's someone she prefers. The better option, she really does like you and wants to wait a while to make sure you're really the one for her. I think you're best option is just to do the same yourself Don't purposefully go looking for someone else but if you find you really quite like them, don't hold yourself back
Chunky Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I would just tell her how you really feel about her. Tell her you feel like you are being used as a safety net. Honesty is the best policy. What have you got to lose?
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