EASiverly Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Hi everyone. I'm new here, just looking for some advice...My girlfriend (who I am head over heels in love with) just moved 3000 miles from Seattle to Baltimore and I am trying not to go crazy with her not here. We spent almost every free second we had with each other and with her gone I dont know how to occupy my time and especially my thoughts. We talk about me moving out there soon but I just got a promotion and dont wanna mess that up. I am hoping to transfer somewhere near, bur who knows if I can even find a similar job there. How do you guys cope with the lonely feelings and stinking thoughts about what your love is doing when you're not talking with them? I need some friends and help. Thanks, Eric
ladyabstrused Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Sorry about what you're going through. You guys could arrange to talk regularly if you both would prefer that. It takes a lot of patience and determination and self-discipline when the lonely feelings set in. Try to get yourself more occupied with hobbies or things that you like to do or just work. Or if really nothing else comes to mind, do something for her. Handmade card, poetry, e-card, compile a bunch of songs for her..so in a way you're doing something to relieve that. Also, you wouldn't want to get too obsessed about what she's doing every minute of the day. It can get pretty annoying/suffocating and might turn her off. You can always catch up with each other on what each of you have done for the day when you talk on the phone or on webcam or something. Or texts. You can have free texting there, right? A lot of patience and trust is needed. Good luck. 2
cerridwen Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 Ladyabstrused gave good advice above. I'll add that the intensity of these feelings (the loneliness, missing her) will lessen to a tolerable level as a bit more time passes. You two just parted. The sadness is likely at its peak. When you come down the other side, develop other parts of your life so as to have more balance. This helps with the loneliness and gives you two more to talk about. It also helps take the focus off her as a primary source of happiness. That's less pressure for her, and more happiness for you. 2
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