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Learning to cope with my what I've done through LS!


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I have posted before and am afraid to read what I've wrote as I've come across as a WS making justifications for my A. I went on the defense and still have a tendency to do so because I'm still learning and growing from what I've done. I appreciate such a great forum to help on my road to getting to a place where I can be proud of who I am.

 

There has been a ton of threads in all forums that I have read as I am a BS, a WS (OW to xmm). It strikes me how much I empathize with all the BS's not just because I've been one but because I'm learning how my A didn't effect my H and so it was easy for me to continue without the remorse I should have felt when it finally ended. I feel more remorse for the WS's on here, putting myself in their BS's shoes in order to hold myself accountable if that makes sense? It's one of the reasons I come to this forum, but it is one woman's thread that hit me like a ton of bricks today that lead me to this post. Thank you Merrmeade for sharing your story and thanks to all the replies from posters that helped me understand a little more about myself.

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In my situation the betrayal can be described a bit like a joint "relationship" bank account. I continued to add to the sum... while she secretly stopped and began to make subtractions... Needless to say I was deliberately kept in the dark as she "bankrupted" what was once us.

 

I'm not even gonna make the joke about her getting her deposits elsewhere.

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