GeeziG Posted July 6, 2012 Share Posted July 6, 2012 Hey loveshackers, I just wanted to start a post to get some insight on if every relationship i've been in for the past few years ends because of me, and if so what are somethings that i could change to prevent this in future relationships... I'll start by saying that my past few relationships have ended the same identical way and in the same amount of time only lasting a breif 6 months. ..although I am fairly young being 22 years of age i have always been very mature when it comes to relationships knowing exactly what i want and expect out of my partner. I am a very hard loving individual and always put the girl i've chosen to be with first in my life. I am very consisten in the way i love and if i start to show it in one way i will continue. .. i've been told that i have a natural sense of how to love nd treat the person i am with and i take a lot of pride in it and have been told not to change, however it always leaves me alone in the end. At the start of each relationship i go in with a lot of confidence knowing that most guys are not like me and that the female that i have comitted to will soon see this and appreciate how much thought and care i put into the relationship we have embarked on. ..all feelings seem mutual then, but somewhere between the start and the end i start to feel less confident and insecure about the relationship i have decied to be in..mainly because i start to realize that the female that i am with maybe not be as comitted or serious about the relationship as i would like her to be. ..maybe it has to do with immaturity and age on there part, but they always claim to be sooo in love and soo serious about the relationship we have nd i believe that, but there actions dont seem to match there words in certian circumstances... For instance in my most recent relationship of six month which was a LDR i had to literally beg my EX to stop talking to her EX'S (which happen to be three different guys) because i just didn't feel like that was something you go into a new relationship doing if you are really trying to be serious anyway. ..or the fact that she could never make me as important as her family and friends i felt more like an option than a proritiy and like any mature person would do i approached her about it and she basically told me i would never be as important to her as them...she would also do things like call me and tell me two guys told me i was sexy as **** today?! like is that really something you tell your signficant other? maybe i am insecure, but i feel like her actions contributed to me being even more insecure about the realtionship i was in with her... she ended up moving to the same city as me but broke up with me two days before she got here...saying that she couldnt meet my standrds she wasnt ready to be committed and that i should learn to trust my girlfriend in everything that she does... she blamed the whole breakup on me and this is the same words of an ex prior to her...so is it really me? What am i doing wrong... Also i saw my most recent EX the day she arrived here and one of the first things she said was this is my first night here and if i wanted to go out tonite you would have a problem with it...like really?! considering we have been long distance for six months and the enitre time all we have been talkin bout is spending time together seeing each other etc... who wouldnt? She also said she felt like she was losing herself so maybe the relationship was really just to serious for here, but like i said once again for the longest time all the way up until the breakup this is what she supposedly wanted... All my EX'S seem to realize what they had once its over and done too i just dont understand I guess im just venting and searching for answers any replys will be really helpful thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
belocchoc129 Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 It seems like you just haven't met the right person. You were ready to commit to a serious relationship and you considered your partner your priority which is great. As a girl, I've just been waiting to meet a guy like that. However, all the girls described in your post didn't seem ready for that and the things that you did seemed to upset them in a way that made them feel like you were pressuring them to commit. I would suggest giving it a little bit more time next time. Don't give the girl too much. Instead take more time to discover her and what she really values in her life. If you guys share the same values, that's great, both of you will be ready to commit. But if she doesn't see the way one should commit to a relationship the way you do, then move on before getting any more serious or you'll just end up feeling hurt in the end. Good luck and I hope you'll meet the right person next time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GeeziG Posted July 7, 2012 Author Share Posted July 7, 2012 Thanks for the kind words...I'll def. Use the advice it's only been a week since the break up and it's driving me insane...NC is def getting the bbest of me it's like how can you claim you care so much and just turn on me like that... Link to post Share on other sites
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