GeeziG Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Hey loveshackers, I just wanted to start a post to get some insight on if every relationship i've been in for the past few years ends because of me, and if so what are somethings that i could change to prevent this in future relationships... I'll start by saying that my past few relationships have ended the same identical way and in the same amount of time only lasting a breif 6 months. ..although I am fairly young being 22 years of age i have always been very mature when it comes to relationships knowing exactly what i want and expect out of my partner. I am a very hard loving individual and always put the girl i've chosen to be with first in my life. I am very consisten in the way i love and if i start to show it in one way i will continue. .. i've been told that i have a natural sense of how to love nd treat the person i am with and i take a lot of pride in it and have been told not to change, however it always leaves me alone in the end. At the start of each relationship i go in with a lot of confidence knowing that most guys are not like me and that the female that i have comitted to will soon see this and appreciate how much thought and care i put into the relationship we have embarked on. ..all feelings seem mutual then, but somewhere between the start and the end i start to feel less confident and insecure about the relationship i have decied to be in..mainly because i start to realize that the female that i am with maybe not be as comitted or serious about the relationship as i would like her to be. ..maybe it has to do with immaturity and age on there part, but they always claim to be sooo in love and soo serious about the relationship we have nd i believe that, but there actions dont seem to match there words in certian circumstances... For instance in my most recent relationship of six month which was a LDR i had to literally beg my EX to stop talking to her EX'S (which happen to be three different guys) because i just didn't feel like that was something you go into a new relationship doing if you are really trying to be serious anyway. ..or the fact that she could never make me as important as her family and friends i felt more like an option than a proritiy and like any mature person would do i approached her about it and she basically told me i would never be as important to her as them...she would also do things like call me and tell me two guys told me i was sexy as **** today?! like is that really something you tell your signficant other? maybe i am insecure, but i feel like her actions contributed to me being even more insecure about the realtionship i was in with her... she ended up moving to the same city as me but broke up with me two days before she got here...saying that she couldnt meet my standrds she wasnt ready to be committed and that i should learn to trust my girlfriend in everything that she does... she blamed the whole breakup on me and this is the same words of an ex prior to her...so is it really me? What am i doing wrong... Also i saw my most recent EX the day she arrived here and one of the first things she said was this is my first night here and if i wanted to go out tonite you would have a problem with it...like really?! considering we have been long distance for six months and the enitre time all we have been talkin bout is spending time together seeing each other etc... who wouldnt? She also said she felt like she was losing herself so maybe the relationship was really just to serious for here, but like i said once again for the longest time all the way up until the breakup this is what she supposedly wanted... All my EX'S seem to realize what they had once its over and done too i just dont understand I guess im just venting and searching for answers any replys will be really helpful thank you.
letsplaynice Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I don't think you're doing anything wrong. If you desire a committed, trusting relationship you need to do your part to be committed and trusting. Keep on giving! If your partner cannot show you the level of commitment and trustworthiness you desire, then you are both better off for having ended the relationship as soon as 6 months into it.
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