Ecthelion Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 My partner is going to australia for a year on 19th of july, saw her for the last time a week ago, we said see you soon, as im going there in november for three weeks with a view to joining her permanently from jan onwards. Since we saw each other for last time there has been no communication-ive texted 8 times and received two small texts back. im not being stifling just chatting usual things. im now at work (on oil rig) so ive facebooked her saying "hey is everthing okay?" still nothing back. i dont understand is she finishing with me or is she just hurting and feeling guilty ?
january2011 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 She's probably too busy with preparing for her year away from home and hasn't had time to breathe. Unless your last conversation ended badly or you have other evidence that suggests she's pulling away from you, I wouldn't worry about it until you get a chance to have a longer conversation. 1
Alban Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 no matter how busy she is, if she loves you she can find 5 min to call you, text you, or something to remind you that you are still in her heart. My friend she met another guy, or you are just history , sorry for that :/
ladyabstrused Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 It does seem a little fishy though. If she's really busy, she could tell you she's busy and that she'd call or text back later or something. Perhaps she's not the type to do that? It's really hard to say what's going on over at the other end. Are there still no responses from her till now? 1
phoenixflyhigh Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 if you really like her, get her something nice and go see her. Talk to her, even if she's done you'll have sweet memories for life and in case she is busy this will strengthen your bond.. Good luck [P.S: do let me know what you presented;)]
Author Ecthelion Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 January: I think this is the most likely cause of action, i know she has a lot of leaving parties and things she is doing at the moment, so i'll just give her time and space Alban: I very much agree that it only takes 5 mins to reply, but she has never been like that, if she says she is busy, she is busy and you will get nothing. Her mum always says she never texts her back so....lol. thats the thing though i dont feel like im in her heart. i feel the inevitable drifting apart of LDR coming on. Obviously this might not be true-but when there is no contact the mind does begin to feel insecure Ladyabstrused: very much the same sentiment as above. I feel like is should send her a fbook message but i really just dont know what to say now without appearing desperate, needy and insecure. Bear in mind before she has even left!!!! Phoenixflyhigh: Id love to go see her but im stuck at sea until she leaves which sucks, however im planning to get her a kindle to go travelling with and get it sent to her home address. However i dont really want to waste my money if she is not bothered anymore!!!! my problem is my fear of rejection is pretty high, ive been in a LDR before and had my heart smashed to little bits. maybe its just time to man up any suggestions for a fbook message to send ?
Dblock10 Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 this is interesting. when this similar situation happened to me i never heard from my ex 2 months before she left. hardly at all throughout her travelling and then lots when she was nearing back, and then finally meeting her and spending time with her after 8-9 months of not seeing her or hearing her voice. but now she's gone back to australia but wants to Skype with me, so i don't know what to do. but seems like your situation is different as you two didn't talk about splitting up, have you even talked about what is going to happen , or did you both agree "you'd see her soon"? did you not talk about staying together or anything like that?
ladyabstrused Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 any suggestions for a fbook message to send ? Why don't you just call her after work hours and talk? Ask her how she's doing and what's been up and you know that you miss her since you haven't heard much from her at all. I think FB messaging is.. a little distant. I don't know, maybe cos I'm not such a fan of FB. 1
HeavenOrHell Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 So she has time for parties, but no time to text or call you?! I would not be happy at all. 1
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