mac007 Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 My girlfriend is witty and funny. She is very pretty. I sometimes wonder if she gets to far out with her jokes. I mean how do I know when she crosses the line from being rude to funny. I would never tell ther her jokes are rude. they are not all the time. But I just know it is her friendly good-nature joke. I don't want to appear to serious. But, I need help understanding her, and her moods. I want to always appear to laugh at her jokes. but sometimes it is too much. I just don't know what to do. I do intend to be with her. Help me somebody, please. MC
UCFKevin Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 Before we can help you understand her, we have to understand you. What the hell are you talking about?
CurlyIam Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 She makes jokes that sometimes make him feel uncomfortable. I have a weird sense of humour myself, but I usually see when I'm going too far. If she doesn't realise it, then you should tell her. It is ackward, but it's the best. Especially if some of the jokes are on you. Brake it nicely to her, make her understand that she may hurt someone's feelings.That sometimesshe hurts you feelings/ And if she doesn't mean to, it's best she stopped. Or at least pay more attention to the response she gets from those around her. I don't think you should change. MAybe loosen up a bit, but TALK to her. She'll thank you for it!
CurlyIam Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 Originally posted by UCFKevin Yeah, what Curly said.
mac007 Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 Thanks for the help above. Why I wrote before? the other day, I went to buy some deodarant. she said to me, "I am SO glad, that you are buying this." I just didn't know if she was joking around. Or complementing me on the scent of the deodarant. Or implying that I smell, or need some more. Ah! who knows. I guess I should talk to her about this, right? I just laughed it off at the time. But, honestly. I still wonder what she meant. It is great both ways that she communicated to me. But, somehow, I didn't understand the message. I guess, I should laugh it off and have a drink. Thanks again!
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 Before we can help you understand her, we have to understand you. What the hell are you talking about? Heh. Funny
SnowWhite Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 If she is a sarcastic person she is more than likely just joking around. Sometimes people just say jokes to amuse themselves. I would be cautious about the way I brought up this conversation with her if I were you and only if you were really serious about each other and your feelings. I had been going out with a guy for a few weeks when he had this "you hurt my feelings" talk with me. I like sensitive guys...but I had never been more turned off in my life by the fact that a grown man couldn't take a few little jokes. Then the conversation shifted to something along the lines of Him: I want to help you. I think you say sarcastic comments sometimes because you try to avoid things in life. Me: Ya me too, I think I was trying to avoid the fact that you are boring as he%* I can be sarcastic sometimes too but I would never say a comment that would hurt someone really, such as overweight comments even said jokingly. It might just be in her nature to be a smarta@@.
mac007 Posted July 11, 2004 Posted July 11, 2004 thanks for the input. that is a mean comment about what he said. He basically judged you, and that is the worst, especially in that manner. Rather than trying to change her, I am trying to change myself to understand more of her side. So, I will give it some time to see what happens.
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