xdxb Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I've realized a lot of guys text me and I'm friendly to them...however, I feel like I haven't been completely honest with myself or them. I'm very fickle but still friendly with them.. It's hard for me to find someone I'm interested in. Is it harmful to keep texting them when I'm just going to flake on them? (not stand them up but i never end up hanging out with them)... if so, what are nice and polite ways of telling a guy there is no way i'll hang out with him? i also feel conflicted at times because i trick myself into thinking i'll give it a chance, but it just doesnt feel right.. i guess i'm at a weird place in my life.
Algermas Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Tell them you're 100% not sexually attracted to them. It's the most direct and also friendliest way of letting them know.
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You need to stop attention whoring...all these guys are texting you because you give them the time of day and they think you might be interested. But you know they're not "good enough" but just a nice little source of entertainment and attention when you want/need it. You're doing this for your own needs not because you want to be their friend, this "validation" gives you a nice little ego boost and makes you feel desirable however you just can't use people to do that because someones going to turn it around and do it right back to you. Any self-respecting guy is going to react negatively to this behavior and blow you off completely, and he definitely isn't going to have interest in someone who does this flocking around a bunch of desperate guys trying to get a piece...your behavior is extremely unattractive and insecure to any man that's looking for a quality woman. This just makes you look extremely vain and selfish. If you're not planning on talking to a guy or meeting him then just say "Sorry, I'm not interested" when they first meet you...otherwise just tell them you're not interested in dating or ignore them. Weird place in your life? probably just young...you're just creating bad habits, this isn't going to get you the relationship or man you want. It doesn't feel right because It's not, you're not being honest, you're using them and being deceitful for your own satisfaction...If that feels right then you'd have bigger problems.
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