I can't stop feeling jealous and sad

[without]

I'm not jealous about money, house, job or anything.It's just about those I love that I get jealous.

 

I was friends with a guy, he had many female friends, mostly beautiful, one of them (although i just saw little pics of her on fb) lived in another country but seemingly was friends with him, when she was here. She looked very beautiful, very fit, muscular. Even though i'm pretty sure she was in a relationship ATM, she flirted with the guy I was friends with. And I felt very jealous, I thought wow I'm never gonna be that good and even now when i think back at it,

I lose all my self-confidence and I just wanna cry.

 

And the guy didn't date me, it was complicated although he wants to be friends he doesn't want to date anyone. It lasted about a year since we were friends and i couldn't really go on as "just friends", we're still in touch but...

 

Anyway how do I overcome this? I'm not ugly even the guy said I'm beautiful.

But i'm a bit over-weight... but every time I think about his friends I feel like I'm no good for anything.

[Philosoraptor]

Well it's called self confidence for a reason. It has nothing to do with how you compare with others but how much you love yourself. So stop comparing yourself with other people because you are great just the way you are.

[without]

Sometimes its hard to have self-confidence, I was ok before, but since I met this guy and his friends and the fact that for whatever reason he didn't date me or maybe really doesn't want to date anyone, I feel very self-conscious about myself to the point that i'm actually hurt.

[GLDheart]

First of all: Real women have curves.

Second: Learn to love yourself.

 

There are a million "men" that would love to have you, and take care of you, and cherish being with you. Don't waste time on one little "boy" that is using you for your "friendship" (I read your post as if you are in a "friends with benefits" situation).