corrinebean Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 [color=violet][/color] My boyfriend and I have been together for close to three years now, and he seems to have some serious issues/fears regarding commitment. We spoke a few weeks ago about moving in together, and he told me that he wasn't "ready" for that yet. I kind of resigned myself to waiting for a few more months (after all, we have been together three years, and now that the subject has been broached, it should be the next step, right?)...well, he decided this weekend that he's going to move from the place he's at now (a house with two other guys) to another house with two other guy friends. So...it's not a commitment issue, as he can obviously commit to living with friends of his, it's not a money issue, and he doesn't have any serious ties to the place he's at now (which was what I originally thought may be a problem, as he's been living there for a few years and the landlord depends on the income from the roommates). I think him and I have just gotten to a point where I know that we're not going in the same direction at all, even though I know that he really loves me. Has anyone else been in this type of a situation? It's so difficult knowing that I need to have a possible breakup conversation with him, when there's not one specific incident I can point to and be mad at him for. There's nothing to actually BE mad about -- it's just a fact that I want and need different things in our relationship at this time, that he's not capable of giving me, and it hurts like crazy. Thanks..
sarah12 Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 You should find out the real reason he doesn't want to move in with you. I mean, personally,I never want to live with a boyfriend. I need my space and I want the excitement of moving in with my husband after we get married. So it's more like a rule for me than something personal against the person. Make sense?
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