Thatshyguy Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Hello everybody I'm kinda new in this forum. But I needed help in this problem I have with myself. I am 18 years old, recently graduated from HS Since I recently just graduated from HS I saw some girl That caught my eye an I really liked her. Well I want to date her but I don't know her at all, the problem is I'm really shy guy an freeze up. Since we aren't in HS anymore I don't have the chance to try an get to know her or even talk to her, to at least face my fears but it was too late we were out. Well I asked one of my closet guy friends for advice an he told me to add her on Facebook, so I did. He also told me to message her a simple "Hey:)" Im actually was really nervous when I added her on Facebook an I get even more nervous to try an message her!!! Also her friends she hanged around with kinda don't like me for some odd reason so i don't know if this could affect the outcome. I don't know what to do an it's driving me nuts so please any advice can help me I will keep updated.
Philosoraptor Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Ask yourself what's the worst thing that can happen if you make contact with this girl? Doing something, no matter what the response, will leave you in a much better spot than doing nothing. You'll either get a positive response and take it from there or a negative/no response and know you need to move on. 1
josation218 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Hello everybody I'm kinda new in this forum. But I needed help in this problem I have with myself. I am 18 years old, recently graduated from HS Since I recently just graduated from HS I saw some girl That caught my eye an I really liked her. Well I want to date her but I don't know her at all, the problem is I'm really shy guy an freeze up. Since we aren't in HS anymore I don't have the chance to try an get to know her or even talk to her, to at least face my fears but it was too late we were out. Well I asked one of my closet guy friends for advice an he told me to add her on Facebook, so I did. He also told me to message her a simple "Hey:)" Im actually was really nervous when I added her on Facebook an I get even more nervous to try an message her!!! Also her friends she hanged around with kinda don't like me for some odd reason so i don't know if this could affect the outcome. I don't know what to do an it's driving me nuts so please any advice can help me I will keep updated. I know how you feel because I am on the same boat as you...I dont think you are shy, you are just afraid of getting rejected.. How will you succeed if you dont try? Rejection is part of life and everybody at some point of their lifes have gotten rejected.. You just need to man up and not care. Do not over think the situation, just do it.. Once you start to overthink things, that's when you begin to get really nervous.. Trust me, you dont want to be nervous when approcahing the girl you like....Think like a winner. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain... You dont want to end up like those guys that are always wondring what if.. Just take a leap of faith. When you approach her just let your emotion shine through.. Next time you see her, just walk up to her and say hi.. You need to make her notice you. Once you break the ice, you will feel better about yourself and you will gain confident to approach her again...
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