gd1039 Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 Ok, so I have started talking to this girl online last week and so far she is very cool. The thing I need help with is how to stay out of the friend catagory and get into the he might like me catagory. I have only seen 1 pic of her (which was small and not the best quality) that was in her profile. The first time we talked I suggested trading pics but she doesn't like to do that without knowing the person a little more. Even though its a little ironic that she has one posted, I respect her not wanting to trade so soon. I don't even post a picture because I don't like it being out there. To simplify: before I finished talking to her last time I made some compliment how I liked her sense of humor alot and that she was fun to talk to. She said the same. So...what can I do to up the ante and not fall into the friend catagory. I would like to talk a little more before getting to the phone convos and longer still before actually meeting for a date (im cautious with this whole online thing still). So, what are some tips anyone has for me? And also I know I am jumping the gun but... suppose when we trade pics I am not as attracted to her as I initially kind of thought. What would be a good way to say, "well I had alot of fun chatting but you really arent my type."? Obviously I don't want to be mean, and I certainly woudln't reject being friends with the girl. After all I like her personality but if I'm just not attracted to her I can't help that. I would hate to say something that comes off as mean and ruin a possibly friendship. But, fingers crossed I am attracted to her and she is to me...
uriel Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 To get out of the friends category with a girl online or in person, flirt with her. No overt sexual talk -- just light teasing, silliness, etc. Test the waters. If she flirts back, keep it up (mixed in with your other regular stuff). Then, once you're warmed up, send her YOUR picture as a "nice surprise." That might make her feel more comfortable with sending you a better one of herself. It will also help you find out whether SHE is attracted to YOU. Or didn't you think of that? -- uriel
crrogers Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 Keep in mind that peple rarely look like they do in pictures; that's why the word "photogenic" was created. You probably should try to meet her ASAP for that reason.....good luck
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