filani Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 If the good women (I'm assuming you are one) are in the clubs getting drunk, waving their boobies around and getting taken home for one night of fun then I suspect the good men have given up looking for your fairytale relationship because they can have NSA sex with a good woman (with boobies! ) by going to the clubs... You seem to be discounting the guys in the club from being "good" for doing exactly what you're doing... That's hypocritical. (but if you like that sort of sex then go for it) Anyway, the other good guys are going to bed early so that they can make the most of the following morning playing sports, going for a walk, doing some other hobby, building their careers. @ OP The above post , especially about the part where you are indicted for your hypocrItical mind set rings very true . Some posters have asked a particular question which you are yet to answer . What qualities do you have to make a quality man choose you above others? Apart from being a drunk , 'cute' girl with boobies ?
Dafa Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 @ OP The above post , especially about the part where you are indicted for your hypocrItical mind set rings very true . Some posters have asked a particular question which you are yet to answer . What qualities do you have to make a quality man choose you above others? Apart from being a drunk , 'cute' girl with boobies ? I'm going to have a go at being the devil's advocate here. Firstly, people are being WAY to judgemental and even unpolite in the way they are voicing their opinion, regardless of it's validity. If you want to have a constructive discussion, writing like that will only make her abandon the thread. If you just want to vent your frustrations, then you are "doing it right". Secondly, nowhere has she said that the types of men that she hooks up with are the types of men she wants to have a serious relationship with. The way i interpreted her question was: "I've been having fun with some dudes, using them as they use me and that is done in clubs. But if i would want to find a nice, serious guy for a relationship, where would i have to go?" This is a perfectly valid question. There are two dimensions here, men she has casual sex with, and men she wants a relationship with. In her mind, these are independent. Also, just because she portrays herself as outgoing and fun-loving, it does not necessarily make her a "slut" as some posts here almost imply. Having said this, some of the things pointed out here, if one abstracts from the crass way they are written, are quite valid and the OP should consider them and perhaps, if she is willing, discuss them here.
fflolhaha Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 (edited) I think they're in college?? But for you... I'd say, art or music college. Maybe a wannabe sound engineer, maybe the semi poser-almost can do it photographer guy. Maybe the "pretty boy drop out" who ended up joining some gang back in high school and is like, part ex-bad boy weirdo part nerd smartie pants, but.. has something that is kinda... you know, whatever you like "visually". cause admit it, you just want a dude who you get all hot and turned on by, but at the same time, he's your slave and doesn't mind, but it's cause all of that only serves him in one little area of his life... Yet, he makes it so important that you feel "special"... Blah blah. Edited July 6, 2012 by fflolhaha
Oxy Moronovich Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I swear variations of this "where are all the good men/there are no good men" get made by LS women every month. William the mod should just make a sticky that says, "The Official 'Where Have All the Good Men Gone' Thread."
El Brujo Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I swear variations of this "where are all the good men/there are no good men" get made by LS women every month. William the mod should just make a sticky that says, "The Official 'Where Have All the Good Men Gone' Thread." I once asked the mods if they could start a "dating around the world" forum, and they said although it was a good idea, they didn't think it would get enough threads to be worth the effort. But I digress... To answer the original topic... if you ladies want good men, you know how to look us up anytime. We're not hiding from you... we've accepted the change in the paradigm, and now you need to accept it too. You ladies need to stop being so hung up on rules, and start pursuing. Ask, and ye shall receive.
Oxy Moronovich Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I once asked the mods if they could start a "dating around the world" forum, and they said although it was a good idea, they didn't think it would get enough threads to be worth the effort. But I digress... To answer the original topic... if you ladies want good men, you know how to look us up anytime. We're not hiding from you... we've accepted the change in the paradigm, and now you need to accept it too. You ladies need to stop being so hung up on rules, and start pursuing. Ask, and ye shall receive. No El Brujo, women are right. All the good men are either married or gay (I love the term "female logic" because it's an oxymoron). All the single women are going to have to become lesbians because good, heterosexual men who are single do not exist.
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 There really are good men. I am not "against" casual sex and I don't think you are wrong for having it, but it does sound like you are spending time and energy around people and participating in situations that are not conducive to encountering the good men. What is it you really want? If you know, and the answer is NOT "drunken one night sex," you'll have to spend your social time somewhat differently, I think. 2
fishtaco Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 There really are good men. I am not "against" casual sex and I don't think you are wrong for having it, but it does sound like you are spending time and energy around people and participating in situations that are not conducive to encountering the good men. What is it you really want? If you know, and the answer is NOT "drunken one night sex," you'll have to spend your social time somewhat differently, I think. I agree, and like my post, I rather like the OP's attitude. It's all just fun. All she has to know is, while having fun, she is unlikely to find "the one". This is true even when it comes to platonic friends. I run around with a lot of people. I split my friends into the "party friends" and real friends. The party friends tend to be much more fun to party with. They are loud, they are goofy, they are always drunk, they know all the good places to go, they'll come to your birthday party and have a blast, their parties usually end up with the police knocking on the door, but if you need to move a couch.... you hear crickets. My real friends? We get together, chat & catch up, alcohol may be involved, but no one gets drunk. Their parties and get togethers are extremely low key compared to my party friends. Some people may like that better, the low-key lifestyle. But I'm with the OP, when I party I want to party. But I also know party friends are just that, party friends. It's the same with dating. There's absolutely nothing wrong with partying it up. But understand the difference.
nessaaa Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Maybe i'm looking in the wrong places but all the guys I seem to meet are either cunts, just want sex, have major issues with exes or speak to me like I'm just some pretty face who isnt capable of intelligent thought. I know I'm far from perfect in many ways but where can I find a man who is normal, doesnt just want sex and even vaguely respects women and who appreciates that this being the 21st century, I may have an opinion that may differ from his, shock horror inform the church elders. They are all old or dead. ;( 1
Woggle Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Maybe more women can be what a good man is looking for. Good men tend to seek good women but some women think being a good woman is beneath them and a sign of weakness.
USMCHokie Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Maybe more women can be what a good man is looking for. Good men tend to seek good women but some women think being a good woman is beneath them and a sign of weakness. Or that they don't even know what a good woman is...?
El Brujo Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 No El Brujo, women are right. All the good men are either married or gay (I love the term "female logic" because it's an oxymoron). All the single women are going to have to become lesbians because good, heterosexual men who are single do not exist. ROFLMAO ROFLMAO ROFLMAO!!!!!!! I guess I better take my death certificate to the nearest Social Security office and get myself declared nonexistent!!! :lmao: It's going to be a real b**** to pay my taxes after that... 1
nofool4u Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 They are all old or dead. ;( Considering your stance on cheating, and past history, I'd say if you think there aren't any good men, it has more to do with you than their age or if they have a death certificate.
bondons Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I thought I'd register to post in this interesting thread. If she hasn't been scared off by the slight thread backfire, I'd like to see the op chime in with her response to the issues raised by a few members over the last couple of pages or so, namely what she can offer a "good man" based on what we know about her so far. As a girl I side with the guys here because op's self belief (being "cute" with "great boobies") and love of a slutty lifestyle (drunken nights out leading to one night stands) aren't really conductive to finding a good man of which there are plenty! I'll get on my soapbox now and say that if you have several one night stands a year, as op seems to suggest she does, you're not mature enough to consider settling with a keeper.
KR10N Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 My data indicate that they are either married or gay So true.
aRealMan Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 how can you be a regular club whore, and then say there aren't any "good" men around? we get what we deserve 1
Curtis24 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 how can you be a regular club whore, and then say there aren't any "good" men around? we get what we deserve First of all, the whole "club whore" thing is grossly exaggerated. Believe it or not, one night stands are still fairly rare - somewhat more common in the working-class - and something women try to avoid at all costs. Most people who go to, say, a college nightclub don't have a ONS that night.
Curtis24 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 (edited) married, gay, or too busy enjoying life. i don't want to be tied dow to one girl. that leaves girls with warcraft playing nice guys who are available and they aint too popular with the ladies. gals, get in shape and look hot. that's the best i can give you. . Its not that difficult to have sex with promiscuous women, which is what you're doing. Edited July 10, 2012 by Curtis24
bondons Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 First of all, the whole "club whore" thing is grossly exaggerated. Believe it or not, one night stands are still fairly rare - somewhat more common in the working-class - and something women try to avoid at all costs. Most people who go to, say, a college nightclub don't have a ONS that night. The op has admitted to having 3 one night stands this year, that could be where the club whore stuff came from.
Curtis24 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 The op has admitted to having 3 one night stands this year, that could be where the club whore stuff came from. Ok, thanks. Then this is somewhat different.
Curtis24 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 go spare yourself. i've popped some cherries in case you're intrested. I'm not, but I doubt that quite frankly. PUA = "teaching nerds how to have sex with sluts"
Algermas Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 . Its not that difficult to have sex with promiscuous women, which is what you're doing. Agreed, the real art is in transforming a sweet young girl into a filthy whore. If dad doesn't want you dead you're doing it wrong.
Curtis24 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Agreed, the real art is in transforming a sweet young girl into a filthy whore. If dad doesn't want you dead you're doing it wrong. PUA = "teaching nerds how to have sex with sluts"
Algermas Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 PUA = "teaching nerds how to have sex with sluts" It wouldn't make sense to teach people how to have sex with a small minority, hence why they focus on sluts.
Curtis24 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Agreed, the real art is in transforming a sweet young girl into a filthy whore. If dad doesn't want you dead you're doing it wrong. Oh, please. Women will have passionate sex with a man who is better-looking than she is. There is no "art" to it.
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