WeAllMightBeNuts Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 The problem is you Phen. Fix you, fix the problem.
fishtaco Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Win-win? Being the safety cushion for a woman who's been a mattress for 50 blokes doesn't sound like winning at all to me It is if they think they landed themselves a beauty queen. It's all a matter of perspective. I wouldn't buy into that, since I know their game. But being with 50 blokes wouldn't be one of my concern.s As long as there is no STD, I don't care about sexual history. I'm not exactly a virgin myself.
Woggle Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 They are out there but you usually have to look in a different places. Most of them are just living their lives instead of constantly putting themselves on the meat market. I also think if women appreciated men like this more there would be more of them. Men who make it out of that stage where women are catching GIGS left and right tend to become very bitter and aren't so nice anymore.
todreaminblue Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Maybe i'm looking in the wrong places but all the guys I seem to meet are either cunts, just want sex, have major issues with exes or speak to me like I'm just some pretty face who isnt capable of intelligent thought. I know I'm far from perfect in many ways but where can I find a man who is normal, doesnt just want sex and even vaguely respects women and who appreciates that this being the 21st century, I may have an opinion that may differ from his, shock horror inform the church elders. This is what I have found and i have met some inspiring men in my past and some real gutter surfers the real men are working hard inspiring boys and girls in their spare time to become better human beings.....teaching them to be part of a team....coaching the rugby team still in their work gear because they dont want to teach them to turn up late, they are in the schools giving them the education to succeed in life,training apprentices teaching them tricks of the trade, single fathers who turn up every weekend to take their boy to a game and listening to their dreams and encouraging them to reach for them..... they are recruiting and training soldiers because they love the people in the country they are protecting, they are the plumbers who dont overcharge you when they come to fix your sink...i could think of many more....they are everywhere.... some of them are happily married some are single and just havent met the right person..some are divorced with kids....and i think fate has hand in who ends up with who.......and where and if you find your fate....will happen when you arent expecting it.....and you are out there meeting the good guys and the gutter suffers and not wasting time splashing in the gutter....good luck ......deb 2
manup Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Lol, I'm sorry it's just funny this thread is so typical of what "nice guys" say. All the "nice guys" either checked out or became *******s.
fishtaco Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Lol, I'm sorry it's just funny this thread is so typical of what "nice guys" say. All the "nice guys" either checked out or became *******s. Yup. I'm embarrassed to say I was once a nice guy. Then I learned. And magically, my dating opportunities opened up quite a bit. If you were never a nice guy, good for you. Not everyone is as lucky as you.
Shaun-Dro Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Maybe i'm looking in the wrong places but all the guys I seem to meet are either cunts, just want sex, have major issues with exes or speak to me like I'm just some pretty face who isnt capable of intelligent thought. I know I'm far from perfect in many ways but where can I find a man who is normal, doesnt just want sex and even vaguely respects women and who appreciates that this being the 21st century, I may have an opinion that may differ from his, shock horror inform the church elders. My best advice to you is to sleep with that jerk (me and a few other guys like me) and then try to build something from there. Cut out the illusion of finding Mr. Right because he ain't around any more.
USMCHokie Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I seem to remember that you chase after thems white dudes...and I have a feeling that you are but one thing to them...
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 My best advice to you is to sleep with that jerk (me and a few other guys like me) and then try to build something from there. Cut out the illusion of finding Mr. Right because he ain't around any more. Probably good advice right here OP. 1
Necromancer Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I think they are dating all the good women. So what can you offer the "Mr right" aside from looks?
turt Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You admit that you've hooked up with guys for sex yet you want a guy who doesn't use girls for sex? You also say that you are really drunk when you go out. ...do you really think any of the "good men" are going to ever take you seriously?
NXS Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I think they are dating all the good women. So what can you offer the "Mr right" aside from looks? Excessive drinking and nice boobies, apparently.
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You admit that you've hooked up with guys for sex yet you want a guy who doesn't use girls for sex? You also say that you are really drunk when you go out. ...do you really think any of the "good men" are going to ever take you seriously? Most of those "good men" probably do the same thing from time to time when they're not in a relationship. I don't think I've ever heard of anyone with a normal dating life not having some casual flings/hook ups every once in a while. 2
turt Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Most of those "good men" probably do the same thing from time to time when they're not in a relationship. I don't think I've ever heard of anyone with a normal dating life not having some casual flings/hook ups every once in a while. That's not what she wants or considers a "good man". I'm just pointing out that she shouldn't expect something she can't give in return. There are people who have self control too (although very rare).
USMCHokie Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Most of those "good men" probably do the same thing from time to time when they're not in a relationship. I don't think I've ever heard of anyone with a normal dating life not having some casual flings/hook ups every once in a while. The issue is not that she has casual flings...come on, it's the 21st century...I speculate that she thinks that the same guys that she hooks up with at the club are the same kinds of guys she wants a relationship with, most likely due to their physical attractiveness and outward qualities such as alcohol-fueled "confidence" and bravado... There's no way she'd settle for anything less...it almost reads like she wants to take one of these hookups and morph him into the ideal "good guy"... I know have a number of female friends who wouldn't know the first thing to do with a good guy... 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 The issue is not that she has casual flings...come on, it's the 21st century...I speculate that she thinks that the same guys that she hooks up with at the club are the same kinds of guys she wants a relationship with, most likely due to their physical attractiveness and outward qualities such as alcohol-fueled "confidence" and bravado... There's no way she'd settle for anything less...it almost reads like she wants to take one of these hookups and morph him into the ideal "good guy"... I know have a number of female friends who wouldn't know the first thing to do with a good guy... Fair enough. It just seems like an awful lot of judgement going on in the thread that's all. "Good" and "bad" seem to be subjective qualities anyway. At least on LS they are.
USMCHokie Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Fair enough. It just seems like an awful lot of judgement going on in the thread that's all. "Good" and "bad" seem to be subjective qualities anyway. At least on LS they are. Of course. One person's "good" may be everyone else's "bad." Those with faulty people pickers rarely deserve sympathy, in my opinion...
Feelsgoodman Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Yup. I'm embarrassed to say I was once a nice guy. Then I learned. And magically, my dating opportunities opened up quite a bit. If you were never a nice guy, good for you. Not everyone is as lucky as you. No need to be embarrassed. Most of us have been nice guys at some point in our lives. Society conditions us to be that way by default by feeding us lies about women since childhood. Undoing this brainwashing and shedding the nice guy persona is a right of passage of sorts for young men. Admittedly, doing so is easier for some than it is for others.
todreaminblue Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Of course. One person's "good" may be everyone else's "bad." Those with faulty people pickers rarely deserve sympathy, in my opinion... some of female friends want the bad guys and dont have faulty people pickers even.....they want the excitement the rush.....the fast car lovers then ask why me when the fast car guy dumps them for a more streamlined model......"why me"......how come you have all the luck......i go for the guy with a quirky vdub and helped me change my flat tyre on the side of the road ....and was laughing at me from the moment he pulled over to help....not the fast car pulled over by the cops about to lose his license.......not that they listen.....live and learn
Author Phennyphen Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 If the cum dumpster is your arse, that's even worse. Who in their right mind would want to have a relationship with a woman who has anal sex with random guys she meets at clubs?? Hahahahaha! See this is where the cultural thing comes in, I do NOT have anal sex with randomers, "cum dumster my arse" means in scouse "cum dumpster?! Are you having a laugh my good fellow?!" haha!
Author Phennyphen Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 I seem to remember that you chase after thems white dudes...and I have a feeling that you are but one thing to them... Reckon I go for a black/asain/anything else then? But arent men just men, regardless of race?
mn311601 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 There's none left. 7 billion people on the planet, half of them men, there aren't any good men left.
oaks Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 If the good women (I'm assuming you are one) are in the clubs getting drunk, waving their boobies around and getting taken home for one night of fun then I suspect the good men have given up looking for your fairytale relationship because they can have NSA sex with a good woman (with boobies! ) by going to the clubs... You seem to be discounting the guys in the club from being "good" for doing exactly what you're doing... That's hypocritical. (but if you like that sort of sex then go for it) Anyway, the other good guys are going to bed early so that they can make the most of the following morning playing sports, going for a walk, doing some other hobby, building their careers.
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