Phennyphen Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Maybe i'm looking in the wrong places but all the guys I seem to meet are either cunts, just want sex, have major issues with exes or speak to me like I'm just some pretty face who isnt capable of intelligent thought. I know I'm far from perfect in many ways but where can I find a man who is normal, doesnt just want sex and even vaguely respects women and who appreciates that this being the 21st century, I may have an opinion that may differ from his, shock horror inform the church elders. 1
ThaWholigan Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 There are lots of cunts in life, men and women. You do have to adjust where you live and where your head is at if you want to find what you want. Keep looking and try not to get too serious about it. Anyway, there are quite a few good men about, let's not generalize here . You have to look, and put yourself in the right place to be seen by these men. Where are you looking anyway? P.S. Waiting for the barrage coming towards this thread
Nicomis Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Maybe i'm looking in the wrong places but all the guys I seem to meet are either cunts, just want sex, have major issues with exes or speak to me like I'm just some pretty face who isnt capable of intelligent thought. I know I'm far from perfect in many ways but where can I find a man who is normal, doesnt just want sex and even vaguely respects women and who appreciates that this being the 21st century, I may have an opinion that may differ from his, shock horror inform the church elders. They are all over. I gotta ask though, where is Scouseland? If your meeting people at bars, then that sort of douchebaggery is prevalent. What qualifies them as "cunts"? That's usually a derogatory term for women where I am from.
ScienceGal Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 My data indicate that they are either married or gay 3
Author Phennyphen Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 There are lots of cunts in life, men and women. You do have to adjust where you live and where your head is at if you want to find what you want. Keep looking and try not to get too serious about it. Anyway, there are quite a few good men about, let's not generalize here . You have to look, and put yourself in the right place to be seen by these men. Where are you looking anyway? P.S. Waiting for the barrage coming towards this thread Haha yes, I was hoping for a good barrage-y thread And I agree, cunts come in both sexes, if you'll excuse any puns there. I've been online dating, sharking men whilst on nights out etc etc, it always ends up with us being totally incompatible (OLD) or in bed (men on nights out) haha, I dont intend on meeting anyone from a night out anyway, thats just for fun really.
Feelsgoodman Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Maybe i'm looking in the wrong places but all the guys I seem to meet are either cunts, just want sex, have major issues with exes or speak to me like I'm just some pretty face who isnt capable of intelligent thought. I know I'm far from perfect in many ways but where can I find a man who is normal, doesnt just want sex and even vaguely respects women and who appreciates that this being the 21st century, I may have an opinion that may differ from his, shock horror inform the church elders. Good men had to adjust to the new realities of our post-modern feminist society. It's hard to be a man with good morals when you're living in an immoral world. Those who failed to adjust have either withdrawn from society and are currently living in their parents' basement or have committed suicide. Hope this answers your question. 3
ScienceGal Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Seriously though, it's about cutting ties when you see someone isn't right for you and moving on. A lot of people don't do that, for various reasons. Too much time with the wrong person means you're missing out on meeting the right one. So, when you meet someone who isn't right for you, shrug your shoulders and move on. If you're frequenting the same places, try different places. Also, maybe have a slightly better/optimistic attitude about it.
Author Phennyphen Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 They are all over. I gotta ask though, where is Scouseland? If your meeting people at bars, then that sort of douchebaggery is prevalent. What qualifies them as "cunts"? That's usually a derogatory term for women where I am from. Haha scouseland is Liverpool, as in, we are called scousers, our accent is scouse When I say cunt (and I apologise to anyone offended by that word) I just mean, unsuitable and unsavoury people, undesirables haha, of either gender. I'm just wondering where is good places to meet nice guys!
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 What exactly is a good man? Whatever it is, I'm sure most of them are already taken. 1
ScienceGal Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Haha yes, I was hoping for a good barrage-y thread And I agree, cunts come in both sexes, if you'll excuse any puns there. I've been online dating, sharking men whilst on nights out etc etc, it always ends up with us being totally incompatible (OLD) or in bed (men on nights out) haha, I dont intend on meeting anyone from a night out anyway, thats just for fun really. So what is it you're looking for? casual/fun or a relationship?
Author Phennyphen Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 Seriously though, it's about cutting ties when you see someone isn't right for you and moving on. A lot of people don't do that, for various reasons. Too much time with the wrong person means you're missing out on meeting the right one. So, when you meet someone who isn't right for you, shrug your shoulders and move on. If you're frequenting the same places, try different places. Also, maybe have a slightly better/optimistic attitude about it. Oh I'm generally optimistic, I'm just having a pure bad whinge here haha!
verhrzn Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 P.S. Waiting for the barrage coming towards this thread http://img.gawkerassets.com/img/17og069hdgs3ogif/original.gif Me myself, I say it's cause they're all taken. Seriously, ya get to a certain age (I'm 27) and literally every good guy I've run across is married or engaged. The rest of em aren't looking for anything serious, cause why would they want that? It's like my ex... he can get laid any time he wants, so why bother with all the mess and frustration (and monogamy) of a relationship? Having fun as a player is far more preferable. 1
Algermas Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Those men don't get positive female attention and hence either adapt by becoming *******s or stay home.
Author Phennyphen Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 So what is it you're looking for? casual/fun or a relationship? A relatonship ultimatley, but not from the guys in clubs, thats just fun as I said, girls got needs!
carhill Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Since the C-word usually gets me moderated around here, I'll comment that, IME as a man and with my male friends, good men are out in the world working, contributing to their communities, supporting their friends and families, perhaps going to church/temple/mosque and socializing within their socio-economic circle. As an example, I'll be enjoying seeing a friend's son get married for the first time in about a month on the beach with a couple hundred folks and I surmise a number of single men and women amongst them. These are all people within our larger social circle; some unknown. There's always a potential for a meeting. Those are the kinds of things I'm focusing on in the future to meet a 'good woman'. Unknown if such would be helpful for yourself. If what you're currently doing isn't working, try something else. Good luck.
Titanwolf Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Those who failed to adjust have either withdrawn from society and are currently living in their parents' basement or have committed suicide. Hope this answers your question. I'm the former, minus the living with parents . OP what is your definition of a good man? and do you possess qualities equivalent to his? (Honest questions here, humour me)
Feelsgoodman Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 there's single good men on every block of every city. but there's a catch. always a catch. these men are largely shy, aren't the smoothest and that's being kind, can't read women eg body language, have little dating/relationship/sexual experience, are largely nerds or geeks. to be blunt, nice exactly what the average woman desires. I think it's quite telling that the only "good guys" out there are the ones with little experience with women. Those who have lots of experience tend to be @ssholes and douchebags. Could it be that upon gaining first hand knowledge of the true female nature, men tend to lose respect for women? I think so. 2
ScienceGal Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 A relatonship ultimatley, but not from the guys in clubs, thats just fun as I said, girls got needs! Well if you're not going to meet them at a club, where else are you going in your attempts to meet someone that's relationship material?
Author Phennyphen Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 I'm the former, minus the living with parents . OP what is your definition of a good man? and do you possess qualities equivalent to his? (Honest questions here, humour me) Like I say, I'm not oerfect but I like to think i'm generally a decent human being, I'm caring and I look out for my friends. A good man is all those things, basically someome who isnt just out for themselves.
Author Phennyphen Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 Well if you're not going to meet them at a club, where else are you going in your attempts to meet someone that's relationship material? Thats what I'm asking you guys, where is a good place to meet guys? I'm not your approaching a guy in starbucks kind of girl though haha
Nicomis Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Haha scouseland is Liverpool, as in, we are called scousers, our accent is scouse When I say cunt (and I apologise to anyone offended by that word) I just mean, unsuitable and unsavoury people, undesirables haha, of either gender. I'm just wondering where is good places to meet nice guys! LOl, I should have known that. I have a photographer friend in Halifax, West Yorkshire that explained to me what a scouser was once.:-) You should try Tampa, Florida. We need more women with Brittish accents here. ;-).
Algermas Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 A relatonship ultimatley, but not from the guys in clubs, thats just fun as I said, girls got needs! Men at the clubs I have simple, straightforward fun with. Now please point out why men would want to be the guy you want a relationship with rather than the guy who dumps his load without knowing your last name?
ScienceGal Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Thats what I'm asking you guys, where is a good place to meet guys? I'm not your approaching a guy in starbucks kind of girl though haha Get involved in activities that interest you. Some sort of club/meetup group or volunteer. Meet new people and get into different circles. 1
verhrzn Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 not even close. their sitting at home alone eating pizza on fridays and saturdays. it appears that there are none but i'm telling you. about every block of every city has some. If a tree falls in the woods, does anyone hear it? If single men never leave their house, then how can you possibly say they exist? You have no evidence supporting your assertion.
ThaWholigan Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Haha yes, I was hoping for a good barrage-y thread And I agree, cunts come in both sexes, if you'll excuse any puns there. I've been online dating, sharking men whilst on nights out etc etc, it always ends up with us being totally incompatible (OLD) or in bed (men on nights out) haha, I dont intend on meeting anyone from a night out anyway, thats just for fun really. Nights out , yeah it's gonna be loads of meat heads usually..... You need to have activities that you do that can allow you to be part of a social circle. Same with guys I say. But you will probably meet some decent guys once you do that. Expand your social circle, take up some new hobbies. I don't know how Liverpool is with that kind of thing, I live in London so there's usually millions of things to do unless you don't have any money . Are there anythings you like to do that you would like in a partner? Think about that and then gravitate towards that area.
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